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The 11 best dating sites right now

Twenty years ago, Match.com went live. It was one of the first dating sites to hit our computer screens and has remained one of the most popular ever since.

But in the last few years a lot has changing in the online dating world.

There’s been a huge rise in apps and websites all designed to help people meet online. Now, no matter what your age or lifestyle, one of the best ways to start dating is simply to create a profile.

It’s a major theme in my latest novel Not That Easy where the young heroine, Ellie Kolstakis, tries out a number of dating apps and sites to get some decent men in her life and in her bed.

One of the biggest issues that she and her friends have with online dating isn t so much the people they meet, but which site they meet them on. In the book they discuss the pros and cons of the different options facing them.

This is relevant to so many single people today. With thousands of new apps and sites being created faster than we can download them, it s hard to know where to start.

Even if you used to successfully online date, but have found yourself single again, it can be difficult to know exactly what sites you need to be surfing.

It s why I ve created this handy guide to the 11 best dating websites and apps available right now. You’re welcome.

Inner Circle

This site describes itself as the way to meet the most successful and attractive singles. It asks users to fill out their job title and education, and links to Facebook so you can view their social circle.

Before you join, the app has to approve you as a member (a slightly daunting process) or you have to be invited.

If you want to unlock certain features you either have to pay or invite other to join. A friend who uses it tells me: It s good if you re picky but there aren t a lot of people on it.

Tinder

I can t really make a list of the best dating sites without mentioning Tinder. At first people were drawn to the app for its simplicity – users can swipe left to decline and right to approve a date. If two users swipe the same way? They’re matched and can chat to one other.

Tinder once had a reputation for being a shagging app – but that’s changed. Now, it seems you can t go anywhere without meeting couples who got together though it. The app s best quality is undoubtedly its sheer amount of users there are 50 million active ones, so it s unlikely you ll run out of potential matches.

DoingSomething

For people who hate the forced feel of a first online date, DoingSomething might be the answer. It lets you pick a match based on their date suggestion, whether it s a sushi-making masterclass or rollercoaster ride.

The website says it takes the awkward out of dating , but the drawback might be that it s only London-focused – and handling raw fish with someone you don’t fancy could be a lot worse than just having a drink with them.

Cost: £10 per month

Bumble

This sells itself as a feminist app. It works in a similar way to Tinder, the only difference is that Bumble only allows women to start a conversation with their matches and they have just 24 hours to do so before the connection disappears. Men cannot make the first approach.

The idea is to stop women getting loads of sleazy messages but I have it on good authority that some men are taking advantage of this and view the app as an opportunity for them to ‘sit back and do nothing’, while women rush around trying to message the potential loves of their lives in 24 hours.

Not exactly the epitome of equality

OKCupid

This is one of the biggest dating sites out there, and a lot of people I know have had relationship success here. The bonus is that users can fill in a lot of information about themselves, so you can tell who’s after casual sex and who wants more.

But the app has fallen in popularity compared to Tinder, and the fact that you can receive messages from anyone – without matching first – means that your inbox can quickly become clogged with sleaze.

Tastebuds

This is the app for music lovers. It matches you with people based on your location and a shared interest in music. It can import your favourite tunes from your smartphone or Last.fm and does the hard work for you by collating matches.

A possible drawback could be a limited number of users those figures aren t available online – but it does look like a good app if music plays a significant part in your life and loves.

Hinge

Unlike Tinder, Hinge doesn t let you swipe through an unlimited number of potential matches. Instead it only lets you match with people who share your mutual friends – and it shows you a new batch of users every day.

It also lets users have a more detailed profile than Tinder which just offers a bio and lets you add activities, preferred dating spots and so on.

The only awkward thing is it means people in your social circle will all know you re on the app, so if you re not keen on having all your mates see your profile, this might not be for you.

Muddy matches

Do you like country walks? Spend most of your time complaining about life in London? Enjoy wearing wellies? Muddy Matches could be for you.

This UK website has more than 130,000 members and as one Twitter user tells me, it s perfect for meeting posh boys.

On its website it describes itself as the only independent dating site for genuine country-minded people. The only problem is that it s not free.

Cost: £22 for one month, £66 for six months

Happn

This app has been popular over the last few years, as it shows people you have crossed paths with geographically. It means you can match with hotties you live near, or with someone who always goes to the same bar as you.

Some people I know, though, have complained that though they receive matches, there s often a reluctance amongst users to send messages.

But it still has a large pool of potentials and has a simple, usable model.

Double

This is the app for people who hate the thought of going on a date alone. It means you can join up with a friend, search for other pairs and go on a group date.

It s based in the UK so most of the user base will be here, and it means you don t have to worry so much about awkward silences or safety.

The only issue is it makes the matching process a lot harder two of you have to like two other people. And what if you end up fancying the same person as your friend?

If you re going to use this one, it might be best to have some other apps in your repertoire, too.

Coffee meets Bagel

If you hate the thought of Tinder s limitless matches, Coffee meets Bagel is for you. It only gives you one match a day which is someone you ll have a mutual friend with via Facebook.

The more times you login the more points you get, which allows you to unlock special features.

If you don t like your option, you can play give or take – where you either take a possible match or give them away by emailing their details to a friend.

Your dates are called bagels and the app is fun especially if you like smartphone games. The drawback is it s quite hard to use and doesn t offer many potential partners.

Radhika Sanghani’s latest novel, Not That Easy (Harlequin), is available to buy in paperback or as an eBook on Amazon and Telegraph Bookshop


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The 11 Differences Between Dating A Girl And A Woman

Recently, I wrote a post on “The 11 Differences Between Dating a Boy vs. a Man .” The post can have the genders swapped and most points would still apply. However, we can’t deny that there are some fundamental differences between men and women — from how we are socialized to the chemical and hormonal differences that naturally occur. Thus, I thought it appropriate to follow up with a post on the difference between dating a girl vs. a woman. Again, many points on this post would apply if you switched the genders around.

A boy is attracted to girls. A man is attracted to women. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. Also, this isn’t to say that a woman won’t ever have “girlish” or immature tendencies or vice versa. This post refers to one’s maturity and most points would also apply if you switch the genders as well.

If you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls. However, if you are a man (independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers:

1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often consists of screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering her.

2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to others).

3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.

4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be financially independent — she banks on. herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line.

5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She competes and will even tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get what she wants.

6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean. A woman understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and others. She also understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.

7. “A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous

8. A girl does not respect her body. She has not yet understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that it’s important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it with.

“A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah

9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be, the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.

“After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.” – N. Mah

10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else. Here is an example of how this checklist may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny jeans, over six feet tall, rich. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available.

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a mature woman, or someone with an immature mindset. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t.

Amy Chan is a relationship and lifestyle columnist. To read more of her articles, visit www.JustMyType.ca


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Why Bankruptcy?

Bankruptcy is when a court declares that a debt no longer exists or the court is asked to approve a plan to reorganize debts.

  • Chapter 11 reorganizes a corporation or other business entity
  • Chapter 13 reorganizes debts for individuals or married couples
  • Chapter 7 wipes out debts

Most bankruptcy cases are filed under Chapter 7.

After major revisions in the law in 1978 and 1994, filing bankruptcy became a streamlined process where most consumer filers keep all their assets. Major changes effective 10/17/05 make it harder to get a discharge under Chapter 7, but an experienced attorney can guide their client through the process .

Joseph A. Weber offers a 24 hour recorded InfoTape at (714) 957-2533 and is happy to answer questions about bankruptcy. His offices are in Costa Mesa, down the street from South Coast Plaza, and in Cerritos near the Cerritos Auto Center. The main office number is (714) 433-7185. Under the new law, Attorney Weber may be considered a debt relief agency.

What is Chapter 7 Bankruptcy?

For individuals or married couples, Chapter 7 WIPES OUT unsecured debts like credit cards, signature, and medical bills forever. This is called “discharge.” On secured debts like mortgages, vehicle loans, or furniture/jewelry store debts, the person simply keeps making payments if they want to keep that item. The asset or property they get to keep is called “exempt”. The exemption laws in California are very liberal. For example, a member of a family unit can keep a home with $100,000 equity.

What is Chapter 13 Bankruptcy?

In Chapter 13, the person proposes a Plan to the court to pay debts over an extended period of time. usually 3 years, but 5 is often allowed. The debtor sends one payment in each month to a court trustee who in turn pays each creditor. While in a plan the person is protected by the court from collection calls or garnishment. On unsecured debts, no interest is paid, unlike bankcards where often more than half the monthly payment goes toward interest. Further, the court will not only excuse interest on the unsecured debt, but most of the time it will also discount the amount of the principal.

Filing Bankruptcy

Anyone considering bankruptcy should see a qualified attorney. Most offer a free consultation. While there are people who advertise themselves as “paralegals” who will fill out the papers for a “discount fee”, many have turned out to be rip-off artists disappearing with the client’s money.

Attorney Joseph A. Weber has represented thousands of people and businesses in bankruptcy. He is a graduate of St. Leo University, the American College of Law, and has been a member of the Orange County Bar Association, The National Association of Chapter 13 Trustees, The National Association of Consumer Bankruptcy Attorneys, and the Orange County Bankruptcy Forum. He is the author of Credit Limits, a book about the proliferation of bankcards.

Joseph Weber is well-versed in the new bankruptcy law, having studied it for eight years as it was being formulated. He worked to actively oppose what he sees as a creditor-sponsored slap in the face to American consumers.

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The 11 Best Ways To Meet Someone In Real Life, Because Online Dating Really Isn t The Only Option #best #dating #service


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The 11 Best Ways To Meet Someone In Real Life, Because Online Dating Really Isn’t The Only Option

Once upon a time, in an age before the Internet, the only way to meet people was to leave your apartment and interact with humanity. I know it’s a scary thought — leaving your couch, taking off your sweatpants, putting your Netflix binging on pause, and going out to meet people — but that’s just how the world worked. But considering how long the human race existed before the dawn of the Internet and online dating, it looks like meeting people in real life was actually working for them.

I myself have never done the online dating thing. I once signed up on OKCupid for a week to write a good reference for my friend Mattie (I don’t even know if they do that anymore) so he could seem intriguing to some guy he was stalking, but that was it. I got a few messages that week and it confirmed that the online dating world probably wasn’t the best place for me.

Every person I’ve ever dated, including the man I married, I met in real life. Whether it was a bar, work (yes, bad idea, I know), or at one of the many media events that I used to frequent back in my social days (I’m exhausted just thinking about it!), that’s how I met people. And you know what? You can, too. Here’s are the 11 best places to meet people — IRL.

1. Never Skip Work Happy Hour

Even if you know, for a fact, that you will never date any of your coworkers (which is probably a good thing), you never know who they might ask, from outside the office, to tag along. Those harmless office friends? They might have a cute buddy. So if a coworker invites you go to someplace else after Happy Hour, join them.

2. Check Out What Events Your Friends Are Attending On Facebook (And Go)

I don’t mean inviting yourself to whatever events aren’t “public,” but if you see that one of your Facebook friends is going to an art exhibit opening or a reading at the local bookstore, RSVP and go. It’s a great way to find out what’s going on and to get slightly outside your comfort zone, without having to show up somewhere completely alone.

3. Always Go To Friends’ Birthday Parties

I know, I know. Getting up and going out, especially this time of year. seems like cruel and unusual punishment, but if you’re going to meet someone IRL, you have to venture out into the real world. Expanding our social circle, or at the very least, keeping it intact, is very important when you’re trying to meet someone.

4. Take Public Transportation To Work

If the Instagram account Hot Dudes Reading has taught us anything, it’s that the subway is an oyster of attractive people who may be your ideal match. (Of course, this doesn’t mean they’re all single.) Next time you see a hot person reading a book you love, consider striking up a conversation with them about it. Making eyes at the cutie across from you the whole ride? Consider handing them a piece of paper with your number before you get off the train. Sure, it’s brave — but it’s also a thrill.

5. Volunteer Your Time

Volunteering is awesome in more ways than one. For starters, you’re giving back, and secondly, you’re putting yourself in a group of likeminded individuals who, like you, are obviously saints. Consider volunteering for a cause you care about, and see who you meet. At the very least, you’ll make friends (with more potentially cute buddies).

6. Don’t Close Yourself Off To Talking With Strangers

Yes, randoms who think it’s OK to talk to you when you’re clearly deep into tweeting something about your coffee can be really annoying, but sometimes when you give strangers the opportunity to talk to you, they can actually be cool. (But you’ve seen hundreds of rom-coms, so you know that.)

Of course, you need to be safe and should never feel harassed— but sometimes, rape culture has made us believe we’re always in danger, when in reality, we might actually sometimes enjoy the thrill of talking to a stranger.

7. Get A Dog (Or Borrow One To Take For A Walk)

As a person who loves dogs more than humans, I’m not suggesting that dogs are some sort of accessory. What they are are magical, furry gifts that, if you have the time, not only make you a happier person, but get you hitting up the dog park. That right there is opening you up to meeting new people. It’s amazing how many times my dog, Hubbell, has been a conversation starter.

8. Take A Class

Even if you haven’t been in school in years, you can always learn something new. Sign up for cooking class, a pottery class, or finally learn how to scuba dive. Remember how it was so easy to meet people when you were in school? You can do that again.

9. Agree To Be Set Up

So maybe being set up by your Aunt Edie is going to result in you being bored, because Aunt Edie never really understood you. But if a friend wants to set you up on a date, DO IT. Your friends know you well enough to know what type of person will click with you. This is your best case scenario for meeting people IRL, so don’t roll your eyes at it.

10. Become A ‘Regular’ Somewhere

Back when I used to drink like every day was my last day on earth, I was one of a dozen regulars at a couple bars, and it was a great way to meet people. There’s something about being a fixture in someplace you’re comfortable (that isn’t your home) that gives you the confidence to talk to people. Find your favorite cafe, bar, bookstore, restaurant, or place to listen to live music and see how it feels to become a regular.

11. Do More Things Alone

Two big things happen when you’re alone: You’ll find that you’re more likely to talk to people and people are more likely to talk to you. When you’re with your friends it can be intimidating for someone to come up to you, but when you roll solo it’s easier for someone who might want to get to know you to make their move. If you can travel alone. then even better.

If you’re shy about going out alone, bring a book or a journal at first, and take small steps to get comfortable with the feeling. Consider trying not to look at your phone all night, and see what happens. Look at our list of romantic dates to take yourself on. and remember: no matter who you meet or don’t meet, you’re one hot date.

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How to Become Successful As a Single Parent

Have a positive outlook on life – This step applies to anyone in any situation. As a single parent you will encounter many challenges, struggles, and joys. Facing and going through these experiences might change your outlook on life, either in a positive or a negative way. Keeping a positive attitude is key in becoming a successful single parent.

Be patient – patience is the number one rule when it comes to kids. Don’t worry about the little things like dirty hands or dishes; you will get to them. You want to be able to spend all the time you can with your child/ren playing, teaching and learning in a positive setting.

Show love and affection – don’t be afraid to give your child/ren lots of hugs and kisses. They need to know that you believe they are the most important thing in your life. Show them and tell them how special they are each and every day.

Research your Childcare – as a single parent the option of not working is off the table; you will have to trust others to take care of your child/ren when you can’t. If your family or friends can’t watch your child/ren, make sure you research the daycare places you are looking into. Check their backgrounds and ask all the needed questions; this will help provide a safe environment for your child/ren.

Accept help from others – as the saying goes, it takes a village to raise a child. If family members and/or friends are willing to help, don’t turn them down, thinking that you can raise your child/ren on your own. Any extra help from people you trust will help with the challenges that arise.

Manage your time wisely – create a schedule that works for you and your child/ren. This schedule should focus on making time for your child/ren and work. Then pencil in other priorities and activities.

Acquire a strong work ethic – you need a strong work ethic to become a successful single parent. Remember: you are not only working for your needs and wants, but your child’s as well. You want to be able to provide your child/ren with the best life and that requires money in most societies.

Be supportive of your child/ren’s hopes and dreams – let your child/ren know that they are capable of anything they put their mind to, even if it is not something you are interested in. Go to your child/ren’s activities to show them that you support what they are doing. Be there for them when it doesn’t work out exactly the way they wanted to.

Let your child/ren know how important education is – keep the lines of communication open with your child/ren’s school. Make talking to teachers a priority and then make sure you communicate with your child on ways they can improve their education. Children need to see that home to school connection so that they take it seriously.

Take some time out for yourself – everyone needs time to themselves to stay sane. This time might be taking a relaxing bath, watching your favorite television show, or spending the day at the spa with your friends. Whatever it is, make sure you are doing it for yourself.


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11 Things Dating in New York City Has Taught Me

I came to New York City as a single girl. I was part of the generation of young women who lived and breathed by the lessons of Sex and the City. so I was of the delusional notion that I’d land my very own Mr. Big in no time. Oh, how cruel reality can be.

My career was always at the forefront, but since I’m a living, breathing human, it was also my intention to land a partner at some point. It wasn’t necessary to my existence, but definitely something I wanted. So, like any single woman in the city, I went through the motions of dating, having flings and a couple of short relationships in the hopes of finding “the one.” Before I met my fiancé — not in New York City mind you — I had been dating in this town for almost ten years; ten long and arduous years of ups and downs, drama, tears, joy and the rest of it.

It’s not easy to date in New York. New Yorkers have a different idea of what love is, and for a lot of us, it’s not even a priority until later on in the game. However, with the chapter of my dating life officially closed (I hope), I like to think I learned a couple things.

1. You’ll get stood up at some point.

It will probably take you days, if not weeks, to admit to your friends that it happened, but it’s a fact: you will be stood up. In most cases it will be because the person you’re supposed to meet was pushed into the date in the first place. No matter the particulars, remember that you’re not the one to blame.

2. Treatment of servers says everything.

If your date treats a waiter, or anyone in the service industry for that matter, like they’re even remotely beneath him, then bail. The biggest red flag in the dating world is poor treatment of servers. It’s unforgivable.

3. You’ll make a scene in public.

There are a lot of options in NYC and many approach this by dating more than one person at the same time. It’s not easy to run into someone you thought you were ready to get serious with when he’s out on a date with someone else. Try to keep the throwing of wine glasses to a minimum; it can get pretty pricey after three or four.

4. Texts don’t have subliminal messages.

“What are you doing Friday?” is not code for something else, nor is “I had a good time last night.” And, before you drive yourself mad, “good” isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Granted, “great” would both look and sound better, but remember that not everyone has the vast vocabulary that you do.

5. You’ll try online dating eventually .

Even if you’re one of those people who is adamantly against it, you’ll try the online dating scene at least once. I was on OKCupid for all of one week. It was, for lack of a better word, depressing. But think of it this way — you’ll probably find your next job through some sort of professional or social contact or referral, but you might as well apply for jobs online too, right? Same is true of finding a mate — especially in a huge city like NYC.

6. You’ll always find an SATC scenario that fits your dating life.

If you’re part of the Sex and the City generation like me, you will never be free of relating your dating woes to those of Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda. You’ll find that the parallels are often uncanny. However, no one will chase you to Paris. I know, because I tried that one.

7. You’ll be a repeat offender.

Yes, you will meet a douchebag, get screwed over by him, and then go back for more. You will do this more times than you’ll admit. You’ll also have him on speed dial for drunken booty calls, although you won’t tell a soul this — not even your therapist to whom you pay $100 a session after insurance.

8. You’re likely to “love” with one foot out the door.

New York is a city of 8 million people, so it’s hard not to assume that there might be someone better out there for you. This isn’t wrong, rude or even a bad thing. Curiosity may kill cats, kittens and other felines, but it’s also very human. Even in your most smitten of states, you’ll wonder, “Can there be more than this?”

9. You’ll definitely date someone else’s sloppy seconds.

If you’ve dated within your professional and personal circles, which you obviously have, it is more than likely you’ll find yourself on a date with someone else’s ex, either knowingly or unknowingly. The term “sloppy seconds” isn’t a pretty one, but because it’s unavoidable, you may want to come up with a flowery euphemism for it instead.

10. You should avoid people who say they’re in an open relationship.

If there’s anything I’ve learned, and learned the hard way, it’s that people in open relationships are a tricky breed. While I don’t knock their choices, I can attest to the fact that everyone I’ve had, er, “run-ins” with were actually not in an open relationship at all. They were just straight-up cheaters. Not cool. Besides, even if they claim their open relationship is legit, that doesn’t bode well for your long-term prospects.

11. You really can’t change people.

Go ahead and try, try again. You can’t change people, you can’t fix wounded birds, you can’t save people from themselves, and you especially shouldn’t sacrifice who you are because of someone else’s shit. So, quit it, Florence Nightingale.


How to Start a Dating Service: 11 Steps (with Pictures) #looking #for #women


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How to Start a Dating Service

In 2011, dating created nearly 1 billion U.S. dollars in revenue. One-third of all couples met through online dating, and 1 in 5 people found love using the Internet. The field has become crowded with gimmicks, most of which do not succeed. However, if you can find your special niche, you will be able to create a successful dating service.

Steps Edit

Determine who you want your clients to be . Some agencies cater to executives looking for love but who have no time to find it, others work with people over 50 years old, while some work specifically for gays and lesbians. The possibilities are numerous.

Decide how you will interact with clients. You can run a traditional service with an office to meet clients face to face, operate solely online, or a combination of both.

Name your business. Make sure there is no other dating service operating in your area by the same name or online where there may be confusion.

Contact your local government to register your company. Make sure you also fill out any forms you may need for tax purposes. In the United States, you will need to get a tax identification number.

Research your competition to set pricing and services. Find a way to market yourself to people they may not be working with.

Create a website. Even if you do not wish to work through online dating and want to work exclusively with clients face to face, having a website is a great marketing tool. You can also use it to collect basic information from clients prior to your first meeting.

Start setting up friends and family with dates. At this point, you may want to offer reduced rates. If you are successful, they will tell others about your services and bring in your clients for you.

Make fliers and business cards to promote your services. If funding is low, you can easily make your own promotional material or recruit a friend to help. Post fliers throughout your community. You can also create a mass email to friends or post information on a social networking site.

Organize a speed dating event at a local restaurant. Speed dating involves guests getting 5 to 10 minutes to mingle with another guest. After the set time, guests move onto another guest. This allows clients to have several miniature dates in a short amount of time and you should be able to arrange a few full dates from the event.

Create a client contract. Make sure you set ground rules for your services on what is and is not acceptable. Remember your service is to help those looking for love and not just to set people up to make money.

Continue to market yourself. Keep your company name out there with fliers, advertising, and word of mouth.

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11 Reasons Why Everyone Should Date a Russian Girl (If You re Lucky Enough For One To Want To Date You, That Is) #dating #forum


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11 Reasons Why Everyone Should Date a Russian Girl (If You’re Lucky Enough For One To Want To Date You, That Is)

Listen up: Russian girls are where it’s at. I’ve never known a man or woman walk out of a relationship with one of us — no matter how brief, torturous, or complicated — and say that they regretted it. And that’s because we’re awesome. We’re not afraid to call you out on. well, anything you need calling out on, and we’ll make sure you check yourself (before you wreck yourself), because we’re into the whole honesty thing. Sure, we’re also tragically beautiful and flawless and we’ve got excellent taste in fashion and art (and basically everything else), but we’re also smart, both book-wise and street-wise. (OK, I’m being faux-cocky here for effect, but honestly, looking at it now, most of what I wrote is true. I would just never actually say those things out loud and mean them because that’s one thing Russian girls are not. overly braggy, annoying people.)

Russian women get a bad reputation for the whole “mail order bride” business, but I’m here to shatter that misguided notion (sorry not sorry): Most Russian girls don’t actually sell themselves to American men for money. For the most part, they marry humans they genuinely like, which brings me to my next point: You should absolutely consider yourself very lucky if you ever have the chance to chill with a girl from Russia. More likely than not, she’s fierce, fearless, and essentially your dream girl (that is, if you’re into strong women who challenge the patriarchal system and aren’t afraid of wearing a little bit of pleather). Here are some more reasons why you should definitely aim to date a Russian girl:

1. Her smuggled collection of Russian pop music

Britney Spears? Rihanna? Please. You haven’t experienced music until you’ve experienced Russian pop music, which is designed to comfortably lodge itself in the crevices of your brain until the end of time. Every Russian girl has a pile of burned CDs she’s gotten in the mail from her second cousin who lives in Moscow, and she will not hesitate to bust them out in the car.

2. She probably knows where the best Russian candy and snack hub is

Stick with a Russian girl long enough, and you’ll get to experience the pure bliss of Russian chocolates and treats (and Korovka, which is a block of milky-caramel and is everything dreams are made of). Chances are, she probably also knows the best place to get a plate of Golubtsy (stuffed cabbage rolls) and a slice of Medovik torte (YAASSSSS).

3. She’s got grit

Just don’t expect her to let anyone walk all over her. Even if she just suspects you’re doubting her, or you’ve dissed her in the slightest, she’ll tell you what’s what. Sometimes this comes off as aggressive, but you should know that she’s been raised to question authority and probably mistrust just about everything and everyone (KGB holdovers, sorry). She’s a survivor through and through, and probably the best person to weather a mosh pit with.

4. She’s refreshingly straightforward

Russian gals don’t flirt around any issue, problem, or disagreement, because they don’t have time to tiptoe. While her ways of communicating may be “ruthless,” to her, she thinks of this as maximizing time to the fullest. And time is money. And money is those Louboutin shoes she saw at Nordstrom the other day, so move along please.

5. And not afraid to really vocalize her thoughts

We don’t know how to use our inside voices sometimes, OK? Sometimes we get so excited, and so passionate, and so zealous, that our neighbors might think we’re dying. But really we’re just excited about that mega-sale at J.Crew. If you piss us off, don’t be surprised if we yell. It might be uncouth, but it’s also 99.8 percent more effective than talking about things in a rational, collected manner.

6. She’s fiercely loyal

All Russian girls put their family first above all else, so don’t ever talk smack about their relatives. If you’re awesome, maybe you’ll get the same treatment someday, too.

7. She knows how to get down

Not all Russian ladies get turnt, and no, we don’t all love vodka. But we know how to have a good time, and we know how to entertain. What “having a good time” and “entertaining” actually look like will vary from woman to woman because, duh, we’re all incredibly unique just like anyone else. The thing that our Russian-ness makes us all have in common? However we personally like to have fun, and personally like to entertain, we’re amazing at it.

8. Her fashion sense is on point

There is no such thing as a frumpy Russian lady. Not to be vain or anything (OK, maybe a little bit), but clothes are a pretty integral part of who we are. The way we dress ourselves is an important form of self-expression, and we take that self-expression very seriously.

9. Her parents will probably care more about you than your own family (seriously)

If you’ve won over the hearts of your Russian lady love and her family, they will probably love you forever, vigorously worry about you like it’s a competitive sport, and feed you until you definitely need to loosen your belt. Unless you screw your Russian girl over, and then it’s end times for you, pal. Lord help your soul if you’ve angered a Russian girl’s family.

10. She’s super smart.

Hello? The Russians basically invented space travel and just try to find another writer besides Nabokov who can seamlessly craft a grammatically sound sentence that is over a page in length? (OK, fine, William Faulkner is a pretty dope wordsmith too. Fine, America, you can have that.) A Russian girl is raised to think and act and live independently. If she wants nice clothes, nice jewelry, and a nice bookshelf, she knows she’ll have to earn the money to buy those things herself, and that means going to school and getting a job and working hard until she gets dolla dolla bills.

11. And a tireless hustler

Russians know how to work hard and play hard. And as much as I hate that tired phrase, Russian women probably created it. Because we’re boss.


Online dating: The 11 best dating websites right now #jewish #singles


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The 11 best dating sites right now

Twenty years ago, Match.com went live. It was one of the first dating sites to hit our computer screens and has remained one of the most popular ever since.

But in the last few years a lot has changing in the online dating world.

There’s been a huge rise in apps and websites all designed to help people meet online. Now, no matter what your age or lifestyle, one of the best ways to start dating is simply to create a profile.

It’s a major theme in my latest novel Not That Easy where the young heroine, Ellie Kolstakis, tries out a number of dating apps and sites to get some decent men in her life and in her bed.

One of the biggest issues that she and her friends have with online dating isn t so much the people they meet, but which site they meet them on. In the book they discuss the pros and cons of the different options facing them.

This is relevant to so many single people today. With thousands of new apps and sites being created faster than we can download them, it s hard to know where to start.

Even if you used to successfully online date, but have found yourself single again, it can be difficult to know exactly what sites you need to be surfing.

It s why I ve created this handy guide to the 11 best dating websites and apps available right now. You’re welcome.

Inner Circle

This site describes itself as the way to meet the most successful and attractive singles. It asks users to fill out their job title and education, and links to Facebook so you can view their social circle.

Before you join, the app has to approve you as a member (a slightly daunting process) or you have to be invited.

If you want to unlock certain features you either have to pay or invite other to join. A friend who uses it tells me: It s good if you re picky but there aren t a lot of people on it.

Tinder

I can t really make a list of the best dating sites without mentioning Tinder. At first people were drawn to the app for its simplicity – users can swipe left to decline and right to approve a date. If two users swipe the same way? They’re matched and can chat to one other.

Tinder once had a reputation for being a shagging app – but that’s changed. Now, it seems you can t go anywhere without meeting couples who got together though it. The app s best quality is undoubtedly its sheer amount of users there are 50 million active ones, so it s unlikely you ll run out of potential matches.

DoingSomething

For people who hate the forced feel of a first online date, DoingSomething might be the answer. It lets you pick a match based on their date suggestion, whether it s a sushi-making masterclass or rollercoaster ride.

The website says it takes the awkward out of dating , but the drawback might be that it s only London-focused – and handling raw fish with someone you don’t fancy could be a lot worse than just having a drink with them.

Cost: £10 per month

Bumble

This sells itself as a feminist app. It works in a similar way to Tinder, the only difference is that Bumble only allows women to start a conversation with their matches and they have just 24 hours to do so before the connection disappears. Men cannot make the first approach.

The idea is to stop women getting loads of sleazy messages but I have it on good authority that some men are taking advantage of this and view the app as an opportunity for them to ‘sit back and do nothing’, while women rush around trying to message the potential loves of their lives in 24 hours.

Not exactly the epitome of equality

OKCupid

This is one of the biggest dating sites out there, and a lot of people I know have had relationship success here. The bonus is that users can fill in a lot of information about themselves, so you can tell who’s after casual sex and who wants more.

But the app has fallen in popularity compared to Tinder, and the fact that you can receive messages from anyone – without matching first – means that your inbox can quickly become clogged with sleaze.

Tastebuds

This is the app for music lovers. It matches you with people based on your location and a shared interest in music. It can import your favourite tunes from your smartphone or Last.fm and does the hard work for you by collating matches.

A possible drawback could be a limited number of users those figures aren t available online – but it does look like a good app if music plays a significant part in your life and loves.

Hinge

Unlike Tinder, Hinge doesn t let you swipe through an unlimited number of potential matches. Instead it only lets you match with people who share your mutual friends – and it shows you a new batch of users every day.

It also lets users have a more detailed profile than Tinder which just offers a bio and lets you add activities, preferred dating spots and so on.

The only awkward thing is it means people in your social circle will all know you re on the app, so if you re not keen on having all your mates see your profile, this might not be for you.

Muddy matches

Do you like country walks? Spend most of your time complaining about life in London? Enjoy wearing wellies? Muddy Matches could be for you.

This UK website has more than 130,000 members and as one Twitter user tells me, it s perfect for meeting posh boys.

On its website it describes itself as the only independent dating site for genuine country-minded people. The only problem is that it s not free.

Cost: £22 for one month, £66 for six months

Happn

This app has been popular over the last few years, as it shows people you have crossed paths with geographically. It means you can match with hotties you live near, or with someone who always goes to the same bar as you.

Some people I know, though, have complained that though they receive matches, there s often a reluctance amongst users to send messages.

But it still has a large pool of potentials and has a simple, usable model.

Double

This is the app for people who hate the thought of going on a date alone. It means you can join up with a friend, search for other pairs and go on a group date.

It s based in the UK so most of the user base will be here, and it means you don t have to worry so much about awkward silences or safety.

The only issue is it makes the matching process a lot harder two of you have to like two other people. And what if you end up fancying the same person as your friend?

If you re going to use this one, it might be best to have some other apps in your repertoire, too.

Coffee meets Bagel

If you hate the thought of Tinder s limitless matches, Coffee meets Bagel is for you. It only gives you one match a day which is someone you ll have a mutual friend with via Facebook.

The more times you login the more points you get, which allows you to unlock special features.

If you don t like your option, you can play give or take – where you either take a possible match or give them away by emailing their details to a friend.

Your dates are called bagels and the app is fun especially if you like smartphone games. The drawback is it s quite hard to use and doesn t offer many potential partners.

Radhika Sanghani’s latest novel, Not That Easy (Harlequin), is available to buy in paperback or as an eBook on Amazon and Telegraph Bookshop