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The 10 Commandments of Dating Textiquette

Although relationships are of the flesh, in our day and age of digital reality and instant communication, if you are dating, you will be texting. And although your relationship is built around the face-to-face time you spend with your partner and texting is merely a way to communicate — like the Pony Express was back in the day — there are do’s and dont’s to texting the person you’re seeing that I’ve found helpful. So, here are the 10 Commandments of Dating Text Etiquette:

1.) Do not drunk text. This seems like an obvious one, but it bears repeating. I’ve done it; my friends have done it — and the worst is when we don’t remember we’ve done it until we get a sobering response the next morning. When you’re “full of spirits,” you might let your guard down. You might think something is funny that really isn’t and you are more likely to cross boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed. You can try the Drunk Text Savior App or delete certain numbers from your phone when you know you’re going to be partying. Remind yourself that whatever you drunk text is likely going to annoy, or even worse, anger the recipient, and you will end up looking a fool. We all get drunk from time to time, but as a general rule of thumb, when you’re partying, give your texting finger a vacation.

2.) When you get a text from the person you’re seeing that rubs you the wrong way, put the phone down. You may be feeling hurt, confused, upset. These may be legitimate reactions to the way the text was phrased or the content of the text itself. Respect your feelings. Allow them to settle. Do not, I repeat, do not, “machine gun” text. Get a second opinion from a trusted friend, or if the text really bothers you, reply with something neutral and then bring it up to your date in person.

3.) Keep it brief. This is especially important for women who are dating (and texting with) men. Men are pretty simple creatures when it comes to their phones. They’re what my friend Jeremy calls “Swipers.” That is, they swipe through texts for pertinent information rather than sit there trying to “read between the lines.” One guy I was seeing mistakenly thought I was drunk when I texted him something about how incredible the burrata was at the new Italian place in my neighborhood. “It was such a long text, I just figured you were hammered, so I didn’t repsond.” My text was three lines. Brevity is key; acronyms even better. This is not your novel.

4.) Do not be passive-aggressive. Passive-aggressive behavior via text is just as unacceptable a form of communication as it is in real life. Of course it’s easier to be passive-aggressive when you’re not face-to-face with the person, but once you hit send, you can’t take it back. Then of course, there’s the obvious: Texting rather than speaking your true feelings is the ultimate passive-aggressive move.

5.) Do not define a relationship over text. Do not make any declarations about a relationship over text. This goes for starting or ending a relationship. Text is not an appropriate medium for these types of discussions.

6.) Sexting: OK, you may think, everyone does it. But does that mean you should? Only you can answer that question. With words, sexting can be very exciting (hey, I’m a writer). Verbal sexts engage the imagination and can be a way of connecting with your potential partner in a thrilling way with relatively little commitment. It should feel organic, never forced, and if you feel uncomfortable, just stop. Just as in real life, sexting is your choice, as it’s your phone. When it comes to pictures, be more prudent. Once an image is “out there” — it’s “out there.” Think: Can you trust this person? Are you a public person? Could this make/break you? I know plenty of guys who routinely pass around their phones to their friends to check out sexy photos from other women.

7.) Never go through your date’s texts. This is a major disrespect of privacy, and just like you can’t read you’re bestie’s diary and then complain about what she wrote about you, you can’t go through his texts and then confront him without showing that you violated his privacy. If you have suspicions of “inappropriate/incriminating” texts, ask your partner. If you still have suspicions, trust your gut and get rid of the person. Living in a state of distrust is no way to be happy.

8.) Don’t fish for compliments. No one wants to read, “How much do you want it?”/ “Didn’t you think I looked hot tonight?”/”I have no game with women right now.” These types of messages come off as needy and insecure. On the other hand, do offer compliments if you truly mean them. There’s nothing insecure about being honest about how much you appreciate something about a person, or something that person did. That’s rad!

10.) Get rid of texts that hurt you. When you break up or even after a bad fight, texts are the relics of something that has caused you duress. Why relive the pain? You need to fill your day with positive affirmations. Re-reading mean texts is masochistic. There’s no need, especially when the solution to feeling better is so easy: DELETE.

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So, you want to embark on a casual, no-strings attached relationship? Just sex, no emotional commitment; get in, get off, get out. Having a friend with benefits is like a dream come true to most, but that doesn’t mean it can’t necessarily turn into a nightmare if not handled correctly.

This relationship is great in theory, but often fails miserably due to maintenance and overall execution. Being friends with benefits is a fun, mutually beneficial relationship where you don’t have to take anyone out on a date, but you get to call them at one in the morning to hook up. No fancy dinners, no roses, no gifts, no bullshit.

It seems simple enough, so why do most of these relationships end terribly? Elite is here to give you the 10 commandments to making your friends with benefits relationship work.

Commandment #1: Thou Shall Not Fall in Love

This relationship yields a different kind of happy ending. You shouldn’t be expecting prince charming to come rescue you on a white horse; you should expect someone hung like a horse that makes you come (hopefully). This is the easiest rule to remember but the hardest rule to follow.

It’s understandable that you can eventually start to feel comfortable in this affectionate bond you’ve got going and feelings may start to blossom. If that happens, bitch-slap yourself, sprinkle some cold water on your face, have a drink, and remember, there’s a reason you didn’t want to date this person to begin with.

Commandment #2: Thou Shall Not Text unless it’s a Sext

The only text message you should be sending a friend with benefits is “my place or yours?” and possibly a naked picture that may or may not end up online someday. Other than that, don’t ask how their day was, what they had for lunch, or make any kind of bullshit small talk via text because you’re bored.

Friends with benefits have strict guidelines and if they are crossed, it leaves room for confusion, awkwardness, and disappointment.

Commandment #3: Thou Shall Not Go On a Date with a Friend with Benefits

Anything, and I do mean anything can constitute a date. So, you have to be extra careful. Grabbing a coffee the morning after? Date. Quick bite to eat before a quickie? Date. Anything that promotes conversation outside of yelling out “Oh God” … date.

Going out with someone who you have a strictly sexual relationship with leaves the door open for emotional attachment. Emotional attachment will then lead to feelings. Feelings will then lead to your humping buddy crying over a relationship that doesn’t actually exist.

Do us all a favor and leave the dates for datemyschool.com. Don’t worry though, since it’s the most private dating site out there, your FWB partner will never have to find out.

Commandment #4: Thou Shall Not Introduce to Friends

The biggest friend with benefits faux pas is introducing them to your friends and family. This is absolutely unacceptable, unless you introduce them as follows: “Hey guys this is ______, we have a strict fuck when we’re horny relationship so you’re not allowed to like this person, because I honestly don’t unless we’re in bed.”

If you introduce your friend with benefits to the people who matter in your life, and they actually end up liking the person, you’ll never hear the end of it. So, save yourself the headache and a week of soul searching and keep the relationship between you and your partner.

Commandment #5: Thou Shall Keep the Door Open for New Relationships

The reason these kinds of relationships rarely work out is because people close themselves off from finding someone they actually want to be with. They think that because they already have someone they’re sleeping with, they don’t need to look for anyone else.

A friend with benefits is a temporary fix and should never be misconstrued as a relationship. You have to be open to the possibility of meeting someone who you may actually want to spend some quality time with and eventually close your legs to the past.

Commandment #6: Thou Shall Not Get Jealous

Keep the lines of communication open. If you’ve met someone you like, have the courtesy to tell your sexual significant other. On the other hand, if they have met someone they like, under no circumstances can you get jealous.

The ground rules were set from the beginning: sex and nothing more. You should be able to be emotionally unattached to a friend with benefits (if you follow the commandments above) and therefore have no problem making a clean break from one another.

Commandment #7: Thou Shall Know the Difference between a Back-Up and a FWB

Quick tutorial: A back-up and a friend with benefits are two completely different entities. A back-up is a friend you probably have never slept with. You bring them to family functions, birthdays, office parties, etc. This person is most likely your best friend of the opposite sex (or same, whatever floats your boat).

A back-up is someone you may eventually end up with because everyone in your life already loves and accepts them. Never, ever, confuse a back-up for a friend with benefits. Back-ups are out there for everyone to see but, as we established before, friends with benefits are for your eyes only.

Commandment #8: Thou Shall Not Cuddle

Save that shit for your next relationship. The beauty of a friend with benefits is that normal rules don’t apply. You don’t have to cuddle afterwards or spend the night, and you can tell the person what you like and how you like it and no feelings should ever get hurt. This is a no holds barred relationship, get yours and make sure you’re always getting it good.

Commandment #9: Thou Shall Not Be FWB with an Actual Friend

Friends with benefits works best if it’s with a person you’ve recently met and haven’t bonded with. Don’t get me wrong, plenty of us can get drunk and hook up with a person who is actually a good friend. The trick is to not let that one hook up lead into a full blown friend with benefits relationship.

People who were actually friends before have an underlying emotional attachment to one another and that may lead to a hot mess of a relationship.

Commandment #10: Thou Shall Follow All of My Rules

Because I know what I’m talking about.

Gayana Sarkisova | Elite.

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Thou Shalt Act like a Lady This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Do not cuss. Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. This includes not chasing him by calling or emailing him excessively. Remember, however, that for you to be a lady, he must be a gentleman. A gentleman will ask you for a weekend date by Wednesday. If he asks you out for the weekend on Thursday or later, the ladylike thing to do is to schedule no more than Sunday brunch with him. Or if he really needs to be taught a lesson, schedule a Monday night dinner. A lady will not allow a gentleman to make last minute plans, even if he tells her he loves a spontaneous girl. If you accept out of eagerness, he will feel you are too easy, and will move on to someone who makes him work harder.

Thou Shalt Honor Thy Dating Commitments When a man calls you, he will offer you dinner, but you have the right to reduce the date to drinks, lunch, brunch, coffee, etc. However, If you suggest less than dinner, that sends the clear message that you are auditioning him and you don’t have time to share an entire meal with him. If you are marriage minded, know that this will turn off monogamous men. Please do not make other plans immediately following the date. He will notice if you are constantly looking at your watch, and he will be unimpressed. It’s important to remember that even if your date is not your dream guy, you are gathering information and experience, called Dating Data, that you will use on future dates with someone more to your liking.

Thou Shalt Not Drink Too Much on the First Date Although it may be very tempting, in order to relax, drinking more than two alcoholic beverages could cloud your judgment. Stay clear and focused, and never allow yourself to become sloppy or drunk. Remember — two drink maximum!


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The 10 Commandments of Dating Textiquette

Although relationships are of the flesh, in our day and age of digital reality and instant communication, if you are dating, you will be texting. And although your relationship is built around the face-to-face time you spend with your partner and texting is merely a way to communicate — like the Pony Express was back in the day — there are do’s and dont’s to texting the person you’re seeing that I’ve found helpful. So, here are the 10 Commandments of Dating Text Etiquette:

1.) Do not drunk text. This seems like an obvious one, but it bears repeating. I’ve done it; my friends have done it — and the worst is when we don’t remember we’ve done it until we get a sobering response the next morning. When you’re “full of spirits,” you might let your guard down. You might think something is funny that really isn’t and you are more likely to cross boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed. You can try the Drunk Text Savior App or delete certain numbers from your phone when you know you’re going to be partying. Remind yourself that whatever you drunk text is likely going to annoy, or even worse, anger the recipient, and you will end up looking a fool. We all get drunk from time to time, but as a general rule of thumb, when you’re partying, give your texting finger a vacation.

2.) When you get a text from the person you’re seeing that rubs you the wrong way, put the phone down. You may be feeling hurt, confused, upset. These may be legitimate reactions to the way the text was phrased or the content of the text itself. Respect your feelings. Allow them to settle. Do not, I repeat, do not, “machine gun” text. Get a second opinion from a trusted friend, or if the text really bothers you, reply with something neutral and then bring it up to your date in person.

3.) Keep it brief. This is especially important for women who are dating (and texting with) men. Men are pretty simple creatures when it comes to their phones. They’re what my friend Jeremy calls “Swipers.” That is, they swipe through texts for pertinent information rather than sit there trying to “read between the lines.” One guy I was seeing mistakenly thought I was drunk when I texted him something about how incredible the burrata was at the new Italian place in my neighborhood. “It was such a long text, I just figured you were hammered, so I didn’t repsond.” My text was three lines. Brevity is key; acronyms even better. This is not your novel.

4.) Do not be passive-aggressive. Passive-aggressive behavior via text is just as unacceptable a form of communication as it is in real life. Of course it’s easier to be passive-aggressive when you’re not face-to-face with the person, but once you hit send, you can’t take it back. Then of course, there’s the obvious: Texting rather than speaking your true feelings is the ultimate passive-aggressive move.

5.) Do not define a relationship over text. Do not make any declarations about a relationship over text. This goes for starting or ending a relationship. Text is not an appropriate medium for these types of discussions.

6.) Sexting: OK, you may think, everyone does it. But does that mean you should? Only you can answer that question. With words, sexting can be very exciting (hey, I’m a writer). Verbal sexts engage the imagination and can be a way of connecting with your potential partner in a thrilling way with relatively little commitment. It should feel organic, never forced, and if you feel uncomfortable, just stop. Just as in real life, sexting is your choice, as it’s your phone. When it comes to pictures, be more prudent. Once an image is “out there” — it’s “out there.” Think: Can you trust this person? Are you a public person? Could this make/break you? I know plenty of guys who routinely pass around their phones to their friends to check out sexy photos from other women.

7.) Never go through your date’s texts. This is a major disrespect of privacy, and just like you can’t read you’re bestie’s diary and then complain about what she wrote about you, you can’t go through his texts and then confront him without showing that you violated his privacy. If you have suspicions of “inappropriate/incriminating” texts, ask your partner. If you still have suspicions, trust your gut and get rid of the person. Living in a state of distrust is no way to be happy.

8.) Don’t fish for compliments. No one wants to read, “How much do you want it?”/ “Didn’t you think I looked hot tonight?”/”I have no game with women right now.” These types of messages come off as needy and insecure. On the other hand, do offer compliments if you truly mean them. There’s nothing insecure about being honest about how much you appreciate something about a person, or something that person did. That’s rad!

10.) Get rid of texts that hurt you. When you break up or even after a bad fight, texts are the relics of something that has caused you duress. Why relive the pain? You need to fill your day with positive affirmations. Re-reading mean texts is masochistic. There’s no need, especially when the solution to feeling better is so easy: DELETE.

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The 10 Commandments To Being Friends With Benefits

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So, you want to embark on a casual, no-strings attached relationship? Just sex, no emotional commitment; get in, get off, get out. Having a friend with benefits is like a dream come true to most, but that doesn’t mean it can’t necessarily turn into a nightmare if not handled correctly.

This relationship is great in theory, but often fails miserably due to maintenance and overall execution. Being friends with benefits is a fun, mutually beneficial relationship where you don’t have to take anyone out on a date, but you get to call them at one in the morning to hook up. No fancy dinners, no roses, no gifts, no bullshit.

It seems simple enough, so why do most of these relationships end terribly? Elite is here to give you the 10 commandments to making your friends with benefits relationship work.

Commandment #1: Thou Shall Not Fall in Love

This relationship yields a different kind of happy ending. You shouldn’t be expecting prince charming to come rescue you on a white horse; you should expect someone hung like a horse that makes you come (hopefully). This is the easiest rule to remember but the hardest rule to follow.

It’s understandable that you can eventually start to feel comfortable in this affectionate bond you’ve got going and feelings may start to blossom. If that happens, bitch-slap yourself, sprinkle some cold water on your face, have a drink, and remember, there’s a reason you didn’t want to date this person to begin with.

Commandment #2: Thou Shall Not Text unless it’s a Sext

The only text message you should be sending a friend with benefits is “my place or yours?” and possibly a naked picture that may or may not end up online someday. Other than that, don’t ask how their day was, what they had for lunch, or make any kind of bullshit small talk via text because you’re bored.

Friends with benefits have strict guidelines and if they are crossed, it leaves room for confusion, awkwardness, and disappointment.

Commandment #3: Thou Shall Not Go On a Date with a Friend with Benefits

Anything, and I do mean anything can constitute a date. So, you have to be extra careful. Grabbing a coffee the morning after? Date. Quick bite to eat before a quickie? Date. Anything that promotes conversation outside of yelling out “Oh God” … date.

Going out with someone who you have a strictly sexual relationship with leaves the door open for emotional attachment. Emotional attachment will then lead to feelings. Feelings will then lead to your humping buddy crying over a relationship that doesn’t actually exist.

Do us all a favor and leave the dates for datemyschool.com. Don’t worry though, since it’s the most private dating site out there, your FWB partner will never have to find out.

Commandment #4: Thou Shall Not Introduce to Friends

The biggest friend with benefits faux pas is introducing them to your friends and family. This is absolutely unacceptable, unless you introduce them as follows: “Hey guys this is ______, we have a strict fuck when we’re horny relationship so you’re not allowed to like this person, because I honestly don’t unless we’re in bed.”

If you introduce your friend with benefits to the people who matter in your life, and they actually end up liking the person, you’ll never hear the end of it. So, save yourself the headache and a week of soul searching and keep the relationship between you and your partner.

Commandment #5: Thou Shall Keep the Door Open for New Relationships

The reason these kinds of relationships rarely work out is because people close themselves off from finding someone they actually want to be with. They think that because they already have someone they’re sleeping with, they don’t need to look for anyone else.

A friend with benefits is a temporary fix and should never be misconstrued as a relationship. You have to be open to the possibility of meeting someone who you may actually want to spend some quality time with and eventually close your legs to the past.

Commandment #6: Thou Shall Not Get Jealous

Keep the lines of communication open. If you’ve met someone you like, have the courtesy to tell your sexual significant other. On the other hand, if they have met someone they like, under no circumstances can you get jealous.

The ground rules were set from the beginning: sex and nothing more. You should be able to be emotionally unattached to a friend with benefits (if you follow the commandments above) and therefore have no problem making a clean break from one another.

Commandment #7: Thou Shall Know the Difference between a Back-Up and a FWB

Quick tutorial: A back-up and a friend with benefits are two completely different entities. A back-up is a friend you probably have never slept with. You bring them to family functions, birthdays, office parties, etc. This person is most likely your best friend of the opposite sex (or same, whatever floats your boat).

A back-up is someone you may eventually end up with because everyone in your life already loves and accepts them. Never, ever, confuse a back-up for a friend with benefits. Back-ups are out there for everyone to see but, as we established before, friends with benefits are for your eyes only.

Commandment #8: Thou Shall Not Cuddle

Save that shit for your next relationship. The beauty of a friend with benefits is that normal rules don’t apply. You don’t have to cuddle afterwards or spend the night, and you can tell the person what you like and how you like it and no feelings should ever get hurt. This is a no holds barred relationship, get yours and make sure you’re always getting it good.

Commandment #9: Thou Shall Not Be FWB with an Actual Friend

Friends with benefits works best if it’s with a person you’ve recently met and haven’t bonded with. Don’t get me wrong, plenty of us can get drunk and hook up with a person who is actually a good friend. The trick is to not let that one hook up lead into a full blown friend with benefits relationship.

People who were actually friends before have an underlying emotional attachment to one another and that may lead to a hot mess of a relationship.

Commandment #10: Thou Shall Follow All of My Rules

Because I know what I’m talking about.

Gayana Sarkisova | Elite.

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The 10 Dating Commandments

Thou Shalt Act like a Lady This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Do not cuss. Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. This includes not chasing him by calling or emailing him excessively. Remember, however, that for you to be a lady, he must be a gentleman. A gentleman will ask you for a weekend date by Wednesday. If he asks you out for the weekend on Thursday or later, the ladylike thing to do is to schedule no more than Sunday brunch with him. Or if he really needs to be taught a lesson, schedule a Monday night dinner. A lady will not allow a gentleman to make last minute plans, even if he tells her he loves a spontaneous girl. If you accept out of eagerness, he will feel you are too easy, and will move on to someone who makes him work harder.

Thou Shalt Honor Thy Dating Commitments When a man calls you, he will offer you dinner, but you have the right to reduce the date to drinks, lunch, brunch, coffee, etc. However, If you suggest less than dinner, that sends the clear message that you are auditioning him and you don’t have time to share an entire meal with him. If you are marriage minded, know that this will turn off monogamous men. Please do not make other plans immediately following the date. He will notice if you are constantly looking at your watch, and he will be unimpressed. It’s important to remember that even if your date is not your dream guy, you are gathering information and experience, called Dating Data, that you will use on future dates with someone more to your liking.

Thou Shalt Not Drink Too Much on the First Date Although it may be very tempting, in order to relax, drinking more than two alcoholic beverages could cloud your judgment. Stay clear and focused, and never allow yourself to become sloppy or drunk. Remember — two drink maximum!


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The 10 Commandments of Dating Textiquette

Although relationships are of the flesh, in our day and age of digital reality and instant communication, if you are dating, you will be texting. And although your relationship is built around the face-to-face time you spend with your partner and texting is merely a way to communicate — like the Pony Express was back in the day — there are do’s and dont’s to texting the person you’re seeing that I’ve found helpful. So, here are the 10 Commandments of Dating Text Etiquette:

1.) Do not drunk text. This seems like an obvious one, but it bears repeating. I’ve done it; my friends have done it — and the worst is when we don’t remember we’ve done it until we get a sobering response the next morning. When you’re “full of spirits,” you might let your guard down. You might think something is funny that really isn’t and you are more likely to cross boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed. You can try the Drunk Text Savior App or delete certain numbers from your phone when you know you’re going to be partying. Remind yourself that whatever you drunk text is likely going to annoy, or even worse, anger the recipient, and you will end up looking a fool. We all get drunk from time to time, but as a general rule of thumb, when you’re partying, give your texting finger a vacation.

2.) When you get a text from the person you’re seeing that rubs you the wrong way, put the phone down. You may be feeling hurt, confused, upset. These may be legitimate reactions to the way the text was phrased or the content of the text itself. Respect your feelings. Allow them to settle. Do not, I repeat, do not, “machine gun” text. Get a second opinion from a trusted friend, or if the text really bothers you, reply with something neutral and then bring it up to your date in person.

3.) Keep it brief. This is especially important for women who are dating (and texting with) men. Men are pretty simple creatures when it comes to their phones. They’re what my friend Jeremy calls “Swipers.” That is, they swipe through texts for pertinent information rather than sit there trying to “read between the lines.” One guy I was seeing mistakenly thought I was drunk when I texted him something about how incredible the burrata was at the new Italian place in my neighborhood. “It was such a long text, I just figured you were hammered, so I didn’t repsond.” My text was three lines. Brevity is key; acronyms even better. This is not your novel.

4.) Do not be passive-aggressive. Passive-aggressive behavior via text is just as unacceptable a form of communication as it is in real life. Of course it’s easier to be passive-aggressive when you’re not face-to-face with the person, but once you hit send, you can’t take it back. Then of course, there’s the obvious: Texting rather than speaking your true feelings is the ultimate passive-aggressive move.

5.) Do not define a relationship over text. Do not make any declarations about a relationship over text. This goes for starting or ending a relationship. Text is not an appropriate medium for these types of discussions.

6.) Sexting: OK, you may think, everyone does it. But does that mean you should? Only you can answer that question. With words, sexting can be very exciting (hey, I’m a writer). Verbal sexts engage the imagination and can be a way of connecting with your potential partner in a thrilling way with relatively little commitment. It should feel organic, never forced, and if you feel uncomfortable, just stop. Just as in real life, sexting is your choice, as it’s your phone. When it comes to pictures, be more prudent. Once an image is “out there” — it’s “out there.” Think: Can you trust this person? Are you a public person? Could this make/break you? I know plenty of guys who routinely pass around their phones to their friends to check out sexy photos from other women.

7.) Never go through your date’s texts. This is a major disrespect of privacy, and just like you can’t read you’re bestie’s diary and then complain about what she wrote about you, you can’t go through his texts and then confront him without showing that you violated his privacy. If you have suspicions of “inappropriate/incriminating” texts, ask your partner. If you still have suspicions, trust your gut and get rid of the person. Living in a state of distrust is no way to be happy.

8.) Don’t fish for compliments. No one wants to read, “How much do you want it?”/ “Didn’t you think I looked hot tonight?”/”I have no game with women right now.” These types of messages come off as needy and insecure. On the other hand, do offer compliments if you truly mean them. There’s nothing insecure about being honest about how much you appreciate something about a person, or something that person did. That’s rad!

10.) Get rid of texts that hurt you. When you break up or even after a bad fight, texts are the relics of something that has caused you duress. Why relive the pain? You need to fill your day with positive affirmations. Re-reading mean texts is masochistic. There’s no need, especially when the solution to feeling better is so easy: DELETE.

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The 10 Commandments To Being Friends With Benefits

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So, you want to embark on a casual, no-strings attached relationship? Just sex, no emotional commitment; get in, get off, get out. Having a friend with benefits is like a dream come true to most, but that doesn’t mean it can’t necessarily turn into a nightmare if not handled correctly.

This relationship is great in theory, but often fails miserably due to maintenance and overall execution. Being friends with benefits is a fun, mutually beneficial relationship where you don’t have to take anyone out on a date, but you get to call them at one in the morning to hook up. No fancy dinners, no roses, no gifts, no bullshit.

It seems simple enough, so why do most of these relationships end terribly? Elite is here to give you the 10 commandments to making your friends with benefits relationship work.

Commandment #1: Thou Shall Not Fall in Love

This relationship yields a different kind of happy ending. You shouldn’t be expecting prince charming to come rescue you on a white horse; you should expect someone hung like a horse that makes you come (hopefully). This is the easiest rule to remember but the hardest rule to follow.

It’s understandable that you can eventually start to feel comfortable in this affectionate bond you’ve got going and feelings may start to blossom. If that happens, bitch-slap yourself, sprinkle some cold water on your face, have a drink, and remember, there’s a reason you didn’t want to date this person to begin with.

Commandment #2: Thou Shall Not Text unless it’s a Sext

The only text message you should be sending a friend with benefits is “my place or yours?” and possibly a naked picture that may or may not end up online someday. Other than that, don’t ask how their day was, what they had for lunch, or make any kind of bullshit small talk via text because you’re bored.

Friends with benefits have strict guidelines and if they are crossed, it leaves room for confusion, awkwardness, and disappointment.

Commandment #3: Thou Shall Not Go On a Date with a Friend with Benefits

Anything, and I do mean anything can constitute a date. So, you have to be extra careful. Grabbing a coffee the morning after? Date. Quick bite to eat before a quickie? Date. Anything that promotes conversation outside of yelling out “Oh God” … date.

Going out with someone who you have a strictly sexual relationship with leaves the door open for emotional attachment. Emotional attachment will then lead to feelings. Feelings will then lead to your humping buddy crying over a relationship that doesn’t actually exist.

Do us all a favor and leave the dates for datemyschool.com. Don’t worry though, since it’s the most private dating site out there, your FWB partner will never have to find out.

Commandment #4: Thou Shall Not Introduce to Friends

The biggest friend with benefits faux pas is introducing them to your friends and family. This is absolutely unacceptable, unless you introduce them as follows: “Hey guys this is ______, we have a strict fuck when we’re horny relationship so you’re not allowed to like this person, because I honestly don’t unless we’re in bed.”

If you introduce your friend with benefits to the people who matter in your life, and they actually end up liking the person, you’ll never hear the end of it. So, save yourself the headache and a week of soul searching and keep the relationship between you and your partner.

Commandment #5: Thou Shall Keep the Door Open for New Relationships

The reason these kinds of relationships rarely work out is because people close themselves off from finding someone they actually want to be with. They think that because they already have someone they’re sleeping with, they don’t need to look for anyone else.

A friend with benefits is a temporary fix and should never be misconstrued as a relationship. You have to be open to the possibility of meeting someone who you may actually want to spend some quality time with and eventually close your legs to the past.

Commandment #6: Thou Shall Not Get Jealous

Keep the lines of communication open. If you’ve met someone you like, have the courtesy to tell your sexual significant other. On the other hand, if they have met someone they like, under no circumstances can you get jealous.

The ground rules were set from the beginning: sex and nothing more. You should be able to be emotionally unattached to a friend with benefits (if you follow the commandments above) and therefore have no problem making a clean break from one another.

Commandment #7: Thou Shall Know the Difference between a Back-Up and a FWB

Quick tutorial: A back-up and a friend with benefits are two completely different entities. A back-up is a friend you probably have never slept with. You bring them to family functions, birthdays, office parties, etc. This person is most likely your best friend of the opposite sex (or same, whatever floats your boat).

A back-up is someone you may eventually end up with because everyone in your life already loves and accepts them. Never, ever, confuse a back-up for a friend with benefits. Back-ups are out there for everyone to see but, as we established before, friends with benefits are for your eyes only.

Commandment #8: Thou Shall Not Cuddle

Save that shit for your next relationship. The beauty of a friend with benefits is that normal rules don’t apply. You don’t have to cuddle afterwards or spend the night, and you can tell the person what you like and how you like it and no feelings should ever get hurt. This is a no holds barred relationship, get yours and make sure you’re always getting it good.

Commandment #9: Thou Shall Not Be FWB with an Actual Friend

Friends with benefits works best if it’s with a person you’ve recently met and haven’t bonded with. Don’t get me wrong, plenty of us can get drunk and hook up with a person who is actually a good friend. The trick is to not let that one hook up lead into a full blown friend with benefits relationship.

People who were actually friends before have an underlying emotional attachment to one another and that may lead to a hot mess of a relationship.

Commandment #10: Thou Shall Follow All of My Rules

Because I know what I’m talking about.

Gayana Sarkisova | Elite.

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The 10 Dating Commandments #video #dating


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The 10 Dating Commandments

Thou Shalt Act like a Lady This means being polite and follow common laws of etiquette such as saying “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Do not cuss. Men admire, trust and respect women with good manners. This includes not chasing him by calling or emailing him excessively. Remember, however, that for you to be a lady, he must be a gentleman. A gentleman will ask you for a weekend date by Wednesday. If he asks you out for the weekend on Thursday or later, the ladylike thing to do is to schedule no more than Sunday brunch with him. Or if he really needs to be taught a lesson, schedule a Monday night dinner. A lady will not allow a gentleman to make last minute plans, even if he tells her he loves a spontaneous girl. If you accept out of eagerness, he will feel you are too easy, and will move on to someone who makes him work harder.

Thou Shalt Honor Thy Dating Commitments When a man calls you, he will offer you dinner, but you have the right to reduce the date to drinks, lunch, brunch, coffee, etc. However, If you suggest less than dinner, that sends the clear message that you are auditioning him and you don’t have time to share an entire meal with him. If you are marriage minded, know that this will turn off monogamous men. Please do not make other plans immediately following the date. He will notice if you are constantly looking at your watch, and he will be unimpressed. It’s important to remember that even if your date is not your dream guy, you are gathering information and experience, called Dating Data, that you will use on future dates with someone more to your liking.

Thou Shalt Not Drink Too Much on the First Date Although it may be very tempting, in order to relax, drinking more than two alcoholic beverages could cloud your judgment. Stay clear and focused, and never allow yourself to become sloppy or drunk. Remember — two drink maximum!


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The 10 Commandments of Dating Textiquette

Although relationships are of the flesh, in our day and age of digital reality and instant communication, if you are dating, you will be texting. And although your relationship is built around the face-to-face time you spend with your partner and texting is merely a way to communicate — like the Pony Express was back in the day — there are do’s and dont’s to texting the person you’re seeing that I’ve found helpful. So, here are the 10 Commandments of Dating Text Etiquette:

1.) Do not drunk text. This seems like an obvious one, but it bears repeating. I’ve done it; my friends have done it — and the worst is when we don’t remember we’ve done it until we get a sobering response the next morning. When you’re “full of spirits,” you might let your guard down. You might think something is funny that really isn’t and you are more likely to cross boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed. You can try the Drunk Text Savior App or delete certain numbers from your phone when you know you’re going to be partying. Remind yourself that whatever you drunk text is likely going to annoy, or even worse, anger the recipient, and you will end up looking a fool. We all get drunk from time to time, but as a general rule of thumb, when you’re partying, give your texting finger a vacation.

2.) When you get a text from the person you’re seeing that rubs you the wrong way, put the phone down. You may be feeling hurt, confused, upset. These may be legitimate reactions to the way the text was phrased or the content of the text itself. Respect your feelings. Allow them to settle. Do not, I repeat, do not, “machine gun” text. Get a second opinion from a trusted friend, or if the text really bothers you, reply with something neutral and then bring it up to your date in person.

3.) Keep it brief. This is especially important for women who are dating (and texting with) men. Men are pretty simple creatures when it comes to their phones. They’re what my friend Jeremy calls “Swipers.” That is, they swipe through texts for pertinent information rather than sit there trying to “read between the lines.” One guy I was seeing mistakenly thought I was drunk when I texted him something about how incredible the burrata was at the new Italian place in my neighborhood. “It was such a long text, I just figured you were hammered, so I didn’t repsond.” My text was three lines. Brevity is key; acronyms even better. This is not your novel.

4.) Do not be passive-aggressive. Passive-aggressive behavior via text is just as unacceptable a form of communication as it is in real life. Of course it’s easier to be passive-aggressive when you’re not face-to-face with the person, but once you hit send, you can’t take it back. Then of course, there’s the obvious: Texting rather than speaking your true feelings is the ultimate passive-aggressive move.

5.) Do not define a relationship over text. Do not make any declarations about a relationship over text. This goes for starting or ending a relationship. Text is not an appropriate medium for these types of discussions.

6.) Sexting: OK, you may think, everyone does it. But does that mean you should? Only you can answer that question. With words, sexting can be very exciting (hey, I’m a writer). Verbal sexts engage the imagination and can be a way of connecting with your potential partner in a thrilling way with relatively little commitment. It should feel organic, never forced, and if you feel uncomfortable, just stop. Just as in real life, sexting is your choice, as it’s your phone. When it comes to pictures, be more prudent. Once an image is “out there” — it’s “out there.” Think: Can you trust this person? Are you a public person? Could this make/break you? I know plenty of guys who routinely pass around their phones to their friends to check out sexy photos from other women.

7.) Never go through your date’s texts. This is a major disrespect of privacy, and just like you can’t read you’re bestie’s diary and then complain about what she wrote about you, you can’t go through his texts and then confront him without showing that you violated his privacy. If you have suspicions of “inappropriate/incriminating” texts, ask your partner. If you still have suspicions, trust your gut and get rid of the person. Living in a state of distrust is no way to be happy.

8.) Don’t fish for compliments. No one wants to read, “How much do you want it?”/ “Didn’t you think I looked hot tonight?”/”I have no game with women right now.” These types of messages come off as needy and insecure. On the other hand, do offer compliments if you truly mean them. There’s nothing insecure about being honest about how much you appreciate something about a person, or something that person did. That’s rad!

10.) Get rid of texts that hurt you. When you break up or even after a bad fight, texts are the relics of something that has caused you duress. Why relive the pain? You need to fill your day with positive affirmations. Re-reading mean texts is masochistic. There’s no need, especially when the solution to feeling better is so easy: DELETE.

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