Christian Dating Advice: Five Strategies for Christian Singles #free #date


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Christian Dating Advice: Five Strategies for Christian Singles

Jenna voiced a common concern among single Christians looking for a lifelong partner: “My spiritual beliefs and values often make dating a very risky pursuit. I’ve been set up with guys—even ones who know I’m a Christian—who expect me to go along with their lifestyle choices: sex, drugs, excessive drinking, and the rest. Other times, guys find out I’m a Christian and automatically assume I’m uptight and judgmental. The stereotypes get old.”

Of course, the problems don’t disappear when Christians choose to date only other Christians. As Brad said, “I’ve heard Christian dating advice that assumes all Christians are exactly the same. But it’s not as if every believer fits a certain profile. There’s a broad spectrum of what it means for people to call themselves a Christian—from very liberal to very conservative and everything in between. Just because a woman calls herself a Christian doesn’t mean her beliefs or lifestyle choices are the same as mine.”

Let’s be honest: Dating is complex and confusing for nearly everyone—often even more so for those who want to safeguard their spiritual beliefs and moral values in an anything-goes culture.

With this in mind, let us suggest five strategies for dating to help guide Christian singles men and women:

Keep your inner world clean and uncluttered. A key Christian principle says that what is in a person’s heart determines how that person acts—all the decisions he or she makes, for better or worse. Lots of Christian dating advice focuses on behavior—how far is too far physically, what people of faith should or shouldn’t do in a dating relationship, and so on. Some of that advice might be helpful, but most helpful is the recognition that conduct follows convictions and actions follow attitudes. In the book of Proverbs, Solomon wrote, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (4:23). Sound judgment in matters of love and romance springs from a heart rooted in and nurtured by your most deeply held spiritual beliefs.

Define your standards in advance. The time to think through any potentially perilous situation is before it happens. If you traveled to a large city, you would get clear directions to your exact destination so you don’t end up in an unsafe area. You would plan ahead to avoid danger. The same goes for dating. If holding to your values is important to you, take time to identify them before you start dating. Fortify them in advance with your firm intentions.

Don’t hesitate to state where you stand. Some Christian singles are reluctant to voice their convictions for fear of being labeled “old-fashioned” or “narrow-minded.” But it’s best to be up-front about what is and is not acceptable to you. Many awkward and compromising situations can be avoided by simply being honest with your date about your standards. If your dating partner resists your efforts to be true to your beliefs, then do yourself a favor—gracefully bow out.

Maintain a support system. When facing any challenge, it helps to know you are not alone. Enlist others who share your commitment to moral integrity. Ask them to watch your back, encourage you hold firm to your convictions, and keep you accountable. As the saying goes, there is strength in numbers. And strength is what Christian singles need when navigating the tumultuous waters of potential romance.

Seek dating advice from a mature Christian you respect. Chances are there is someone—a pastor, mentor, teacher—whose perspectives and opinions you hold in high regard. Spend time with this person and glean all the wisdom you can. Again, it was Solomon who said, “He who walks with the wise grows wise” (Proverbs 13:20). Good counsel is available to you if you’ll ask for it.

Spiritual beliefs are a large part of who you are and will play a vital role in any lasting relationship. Define them early—and defend them strongly.

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Online Dating Etiquette: Five Tips No One Will Tell You #date


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Online Dating Etiquette: Five Tips No One Will Tell You

Click here to watch the TEDTalk that inspired this post.

When I saw that Gary had called, I was thrilled. Since going on one Match.com date, I’d awaited his missives. Usually, these were sporadic and at odd hours. I should have stopped responding, but I was physically attracted to him⎯something that didn’t happen often. With heart palpitating, I played his voicemail message. It said: “Do you want to go to lunch and a movie tomorrow? My mother’s in town. She’ll pay.”

Watching Amy Webb’s TED talk (in which she details her online dating frustrations⎯until she got all her algorithms right), I was reminded of my own internet adventures before finally meeting my husband on Match in 2006. Prior to that, I spent five years having odd, incomprehensible, maddening, and deeply disheartening encounters like the one with Gary. I’d like to blame this on a bunch of assholes, but that’s not the case. Aside from Gary (including him?), I mostly met good guys who acted badly. Sometimes I’d get an email from someone who was exasperated by my own flaky behavior. Apparently, I was just as careless! With no agreed-upon etiquette, all of us did what we could get away with, or we emulated others. If my loved ones currently in the digital dating world are any measure, things have gotten no better since I took myself off these sites. To help my friends, and anyone else, I’ve come up with a handful of tips regarding web romance decorum. Is my advice subjective? Sure. But in doing research for a book on sex, I’ve also learned a lot about the mating habits of our species. Another inspiration for these recommendations is the way I was courted by my husband, which was exemplary. Then again, he teaches ethics.

1. Be Credit Card Sexy

I think we can agree that the person paying on a date should not be your mother. But if not her, who? Should it be one individual, or do you go Dutch? My opinion is this: If a same-sex couple is meeting for the first time, one of you should assume full financial responsibility. In similar hetero situations, the man should pay. “What?” say my female sisters. To them I reply, “If you’re offended by this old-fashioned custom, then don’t be shy about whipping out your wallet instead.” In truth, it doesn’t matter who forks over the cash as long as someone does it⎯fully. Tip and all. Taking someone out, being taken out. a rendezvous like this is sexy. Calculating debt based on who had caramel in their frappuccino is not. It’s a sex repellent. Mating is delicate business. There’s a reason horny manakin birds do a moon dance and hippos spray their lovers with wet feces. Rituals matter. Be happy you’re not one of those female mites who kills her mother and brother while breeding. You’ll need no such fortitude. Just an unexpired Visa.

Recently, a friend had a five-hour date with a woman he’d met on J-Date. They laughed and talked their heads off. Afterward, she wouldn’t return his calls. “What happened?” he asked me. Truthfully, I have no idea why this woman dumped my buddy. I’d venture to say⎯barring a nasty diagnosis or a death in her immediate family⎯she wasn’t attracted, even though she liked him. A lot. In other words, she was either avoiding an act of rejection, or she was using him for his brain. If you don’t want hot monkey love with a particular human, you need to communicate that. ASAP. I mean, now.

3. Get Your All Your Duck Fetishes in a Row

“I hurt myself last night, but I can’t say what I did,” confessed one potential paramour over Pad Thai. I was blindsided. We’d been hanging out for six weeks, and I thought there was potential. Now I was being tested on a subject I knew nothing about. I’m really vanilla (not into fetishes or scenes). If you don’t want someone like me, please let your freak flag fly right away. That way both of us can cut our losses and move on.

Lately a buddy told me that 70% of the men she meets online yap the entire time they’re together, never attaining even basic information about her. This habit, I imagine, is due to social anxiety, narcissism, or some combination. I throw no stones. If you think you might be a Chatty Cathy or Charlie, here’s a test: Do you love the interplay of bass and treble in your own voice? Does silence freak you out more than cancer? Did you raise your hand in third grade even before the teacher asked anything? If you answered yes to any of these, you might need a list of polite questions you can bring along on your dates. Then dare yourself to get though them all before coffee stains become visible in the cup.

5. Be Exactly Who You are, Though This Means You’ll Get Rejected

After a slew of emails, Chris and I agreed to meet in front of a museum. Approaching in the bright orange jacket I’d “borrowed” from a costume shop, I sported a hippy-fringe purse. But something was off. Chris felt it too, awkwardly standing there in his loafers, pressed slacks, and white oxford. At first I thought we both had on the wrong outfits. Then I realized we were the wrong person⎯for each other. We never saw each other again. This taught me that the more you express your true nature, the greater the risk someone will reject you. We all need to take that chance. If etiquette is a form of civility, the first one we should extend this to is ourselves. I tried to be myself on that first date with my husband, wearing my favorite summer outfit, cat-eye glasses and all. He was reading a French-African play⎯upside down (meant as an obscure joke). Throughout our relationship, I’ve learned a lot about setting boundaries and being more verbal when it comes to my needs. A main reason our marriage works is because we are so mindful when it comes to courtesy and respect. Though it’s not always easy.

I’m probably not the only person with tips about improved online dating behavior. We all have this knowledge when we remember that in the pursuit of love, caring should be part of the equation.


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Five tips for teen dating

Dating is a time of social experimentation for teens. It’s a time to test out which type of partners appeal to them, and how they can negotiate a romantic relationship. But it can also be a confusing time and a difficult time for parents too. “Today” contributor Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist with New York Presbyterian Hospital, has some advice.

Teen dating can be a wonderful and fun time where self confidence is built up, and dating techniques are learned. Teens also learn how to be both assertive and compromising, how to be giving to another and how to expect the same in return. All of this is a sort of practice session in order to find “Mr.” or “Miss Right.”

Unfortunately, too often teens start dating with no preparatory talks from their parents and then they can get into trouble. According to Planned Parenthood, about 10 percent of teenage girls in the U.S. become pregnant before age 20. And the U.S. Attorney General reports that 38 percent of date rape victims are girls between the age of 14 and 17.

Talk to your children. Teach them how to date, how to have respect for one another and how to protect themselves from emotional and physical hurt.

Here are some more tips:

1. BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL.

Your relationship with your partner is a model for how your teen will behave with others. Your relationship for your child speaks far louder than anyone’s words. Show them how you compromise, stick up for yourself, give and expect respect and argue but love your spouse.

2. TELL THEM TO LISTEN TO THEIR INNER VOICE.

Help them pay attention to the voice inside that says, “I’m uncomfortable in this situation and don’t want to do this.” Teach them to trust their judgment. Tell them how to avoid unwanted sexual advances. Tell your sons that having sex does not make them a man and tell your daughters that having sex does not make them cool.

3. WARN THEM ABOUT THE DANGER SIGNS.

Being manipulated, verbally put down, pushed or slapped and kept isolated from other relationships are all signs of an abusive relationship. Make sure both your son and daughter understand that, and that they should come to you or another parent/teacher/counselor if they feel at all threatened or oppressed by their boyfriend or girlfriend.

Tell them they need to be honest and clear in communications. “I’m not sure…” from a girl can mean “I just need to be pushed or pressured some more before I say yes” to her date. Tell girls to say “No” clearly and firmly. Tell boys if they hear “No” then proceeding anyway is rape.

Make them think seriously about what sexual intimacy really means to them. Tell boys they are not expected to try a million different ways to get sex. Tell girls that they do not need to have sex to keep a guy.

Tell them that oral sex and anal sex are sex. Many kids are having these forms of sex because they tell themselves it’s not really sex.

First tell them they shouldn’t be having sex yet. Then tell them about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases. You hope they will wait to have sex, but if they don’t, it’s best that they protect themselves.

Let them talk privately with their doctor so they can get what they need to take care of themselves. Encourage them to come to you with any question or conflict. Try to be open to discussing it, rather than lecturing them. You want them to listen to your opinion, yet at the same time feel they are making up their own mind.

Dr. Gail Saltz is a psychiatrist with New York’s Presbyterian Hospital and a regular contributor to “Today.”


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Five Ways to Meet People Online

Updated October 19, 2016

One of the most popular activities online is finding people to communicate with. We all crave relationships and human connection, and the Web has made this possible for more people all over the world than at any other time in history. So how do you meet people online? Many people utilize sites that connect you with people that hold similar interests – to find and enrich these connections.

Simply searching for meet people online will bring you back more results than you probably will know what to do with. It s sometimes difficult to know which websites are reputable, which ones are legitimate, and which ones are just out to take your hard-earned money. In this article, we ll take a look at a collection of websites that deliver a consistently balanced experience for the searcher who s looking for deeper connections, people with the same interests, etc. At the time of publication, all of these sites offered free membership and/or usage of their services. Note: because these sites are free, they are supported by ads, and not all of these ads are considered family-friendly. Please use caution when visiting and using these sites services.

Plentyoffish is a completely free online dating site; it s also one of the largest free online dating sites on the Web. Registration is free, and once you register, you can find people in your state, city, country; or, if you re looking for someone the same age or affiliation are you, PlentyofFish makes that possible as well. At the time of this writing, there were over three million registered users on PoF, making it one of the largest dating sites on the Web today. More people use this site than any other dating site online. More

OkCupid is a free online dating site with a bit of a twist; your profile is matched up via a personality testing process that ensures you are matched with the best picks possible. OkCupid uses algorithms to match people up to other people that are well-suited; their services are completely free, but they do offer special perks for those who want to pay a bit extra to use the site. Most people find that the free services suit their needs just fine. More

Zoosk is a free online dating site that gives you the ability to have live video and voice speed sessions via computer and webcam; it s a great way to meet people quickly and easily. While Zoosk is mostly about getting people to meet other people, they also encourage their employees to spend time in charitable giving: Zoosk is committed to giving back to our communities both personally and financially. We regularly donate our time at Glide Memorial, at local arts groups and animal shelters, and are always looking for new ways to contribute. If you re looking for a dating site with a heart, this is the one you ll want to check out. More

Meetup.com isn t technically classified as a dating site per se. However, this is a fantastic way to find people who are interested in the same things you are, from mountain climbing to book of the month clubs and everything in between. There are groups gathering in your local area for virtually any interest you can think of, and many friendships and relationships have sprung out of these casual gatherings. More

Craigslist isn t technically a dating site, but you can find personal ads for people all over the world that are looking for friendly interaction or deeper relationships. Simply find your geographic area, and then look in the section marked Personals . Many people have found this to be a great way to find local people in their area who are interested in similar hobbies, groups, etc.

However, unlike the other sites listed in this article, there is not even a minimum of vetting to see if the person whose ad you are looking at is a good match, so keep that in mind when browsing through the Craigslist marketplace. In addition, many ads can be very NSFW (not safe for work), so browse at your own risk and use common sense and safety protocols when deciding whether or not to reply to an ad on Craigslist. More


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The Level 4 Diploma in School Business Management forms part of a suite of school business management qualifications accredited by the ILM .

The Level 4 Diploma is aimed at practising School Business Managers (SBMs), or individuals developing into this role, who are currently performing all or part of the SBM role at either senior administrator or management level.

It enables participants to develop their knowledge, understanding, competencies and confidence in the operational aspects of school business leadership and supports them in understanding the local and political context in which they work. It recognises the importance of effective school business management and the contribution this effectiveness can make to the overall success of the school.

The Level 4 Diploma will enable you to:

  • extend your knowledge of technical and professional aspects of school business management
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  • deepen your understanding of school business management in an educational context
  • evaluate the efficiency and effectiveness of school business management in a specific school setting
  • develop your professional competence in relation to the role of the school business manager
  • enable you to demonstrate the impact of your professional learning on yourself and on a school setting
  • prepare you for further study on the suite of ILM SBM programmes

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  • blended learning, which combines distance learning with face-to-face workshops. Workshops are delivered in Central London locations.
  • distance learning

The Level 4 Diploma in School Business Management provides the opportunity to progress on to the Level 5 Diploma in School Business Management or other CPD opportunities. Visit the School Leaders or Coaching and Mentoring pages to find out more.

What is the cost of the Level 4 Diploma in School Business Management programme?

For details of costs, please see the Price List .

The price you pay includes the ILM registration fee, which will give you free membership to the Institute* and a range of studying member benefits. Membership benefits include access to the LearningZone, the Resource Centre, the Ci Zone and access to Institute events and professional seminars. On successful completion of the programme you will receive an ILM certificate. You may also be eligible to upgrade to become a professional member of the Institute .

*ILM’s partner, the Institute of Leadership Management, is a specialist membership organisation that raises the professional standards of leaders and managers.

It is possible to pay the cost of the programme by instalments – see the SBM FAQs for details.

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How do I apply for the Level 4 Diploma?

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Programme overview

The Level 4 Diploma is approximately one year long. During this time you will complete six units:

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Managing School Finances
Managing Human Resources in Schools
Managing Risk in Schools
Managing Office Services

Download a copy of the Level 4 Diploma Programme Factsheet to learn more about the content of each unit and the programme structure:

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  • Employed by a local authority and visiting schools and/or academies regularly to carry out SBM duties.*
  • Employed as an SBM by an independent school.
  • Employed by an independent school, but not in an SBM role.*
  • Employed by an overseas school which follows the English Curriculum.

*You should have the support of the Headteacher and be able to access any of the school’s policies and data you will need to cover the content of and complete the coursework for all six units of the Level 4 Diploma.

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Those of you who nominated Match shared some of your success stories meeting your significant other there, but also all noted that Match felt the most mature of all of the dating sites you tried—the most elegant, or at least grown up. Where a lot of the services are either aimed at younger people or more casual encounters, many of you said Match felt like a service you were using to go on dates and find real long-term partners. It wasn t unanimous though—many of you bemoaned the cost associated with Match, and said your experience yielded a bunch of dead accounts and unresponsive people, which sucks when you re spending money to communicate with them. Read the good and the bad in the nomination thread here. or this thread here .

OkCupid is completely free, meaning you don t have to pay to see more matches or to unlock specific features that may make it easier for you to find someone interesting. At the same time, because it s completely free, the array of potential matches you get can be wild and varied, to say the least. There are entire blogs around the web dedicated to the types of people you ll find on OkCupid, and part of it is because the service is rapidly growing, free, and accessible to everyone. Granted, that also means that if you re looking for the most possible matches, and the service is very proud of its matching algorithm. When you sign up, you fill out a remarkably lengthy profile full of questions that will be used to help other people find you, and to help you match other people. Mobile apps for iOS and Android help you take your search with you on the go, and stay in touch with people you plan to meet.

Those of you who nominated and praised OKCupid were some of the few who pointed out that you met your significant others there, and your match was—at least for the time being—a success, so congratulations! Seriously, so many success stories in the nominations thread. Many of you bemoaned OkCupid s buyout by Match.com, and mentioned that OkCupid keeps a wealth of statistical data about who uses the service and how successful its matches are. You also explained that if you do go OkCupid, QuickMatch is the way to go—you ll meet interesting, compatible people that way. Read more in the nomination thread here.

Tinder is a bit less of a comprehensive matching site the way you might think of one. It s a little more. to the point, as it were. It s a mobile app only (iOS and Android). You re presented with images for each of your potential matches, and with a swipe or a tap, you can either dismiss them entirely or add them to your like list, full of people you may want to contact for a date. You have to log in via Facebook—Tinder uses Facebook to do its heavy lifting, and uses your likes, shares, and other profile information to help match you up with other users. Once you do though, you re off to the races liking and dismissing people. If someone you liked likes you, then you can communicate. If not, keep trying. It s probably the simplest approach to online match-making ever, kind of a blend between an online matchmaking site and speed dating.

On the other hand though, many of you pointed out that a lot of people use Tinder for hookups, and because the service is so simple compared to other, more robust matchmaking sites. One the bright side though, no one can message you (and you can t message anyone) unless you both liked each other s photos, so there s that. Some of you pointed out that the fact that Tinder cuts the BS and the bloat from online dating is what makes it so powerful, and shared your success stories with it. Go in with an open mind and be ready for weird people, and you ll be fine. Read more in the nomination thread here.

While not technically an online dating site, Meetup did earn your praise in the nominations round for helping you find great things to do that you re actually interested in, and meet interesting people while you went out to do them. After all, for many of us, it s not meeting people that s the problem, it s meeting people who like the things we like or enjoy the pastimes we do. In that vein, Meetup was one of your favorite ways to meet people in general. and perfect for making friends with others who enjoy the activities you do—and if something develops from there, then all the better. If you re more interested in taking the long road, this is a great approach, especially as you start to be seen hanging out at similar Meetup events in your community.

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One of you noted that you started a Meetup group in your community specifically for singles, and it was a huge success, since you had more control over the entire experience, and the whole thing was stress-free. To be fair, Meetup isn t designed for dating, and in many cases people aren t looking to use it as such, but it can be a great way to get out, do interesting things, and meet people—which, if you re looking for love, can be half the battle. Meetup is free, and odds are there s already a singles group on the site in your area. Read more in the nomination thread here.

Plenty of Fish (or POF) tries to combine the ease-of-use of a simpler matching service with some of the brains of a more robust, comprehensive dating site. It matches based on mutual likes, but the more information you add to your profile, the more intelligently it ll try to match you. It has a speed matching feature, called MeetMe, which will present you with singles in your area that match your interests quickly, so you can cut through the fluff and contact someone about a date. Alternatively, you can browse matches by interest or by people who live nearby. At the same time though, it retains some of the simplicity of other services—if two people like each other s profiles, you ll get a notification to connect right away. How much effort you put into finding a good match—whether you go by mutual likes and location only or you fill out your profile with tons of information—is entirely up to you. Oh, POF is also free, and offers mobile apps, just like the other services.

Those of you who nominated POF shared your success stories, which were also great to hear, and praised it for walking that line between being detailed and smart but also super-easy to use and find people to meet with. Many of you noted that the service is free, and others bemoaned the fact that POF users aren t necessarily active and getting responses may be difficult. Read more in this nomination thread or this thread.

Now that you ve seen the top five, it s time to put in your vote for the community favorite:

No honorable mentions this week because the nominees dropped off pretty quickly after that – but there were plenty more nominees if you re looking for more than these five. Head back to the call for contenders to see them. One thing we ll note though—more than a few people pointed out that with dating services, you do hand over a ton of personal information when you fill out these questionnaires and fill out your profile. That s a lot of information being harvested from you, especially in the case of the free services, that s used for who-knows-what. That said, you are trading that information for a service that the dating site provides—helping you find a match. Just be eyes-open about that transaction before you sign up and fill out all the things. Finally, when you do get into online dating, don t forget toi make time for it to get he best possible results, and of course, be on your best behavior.

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Want to make the case for your personal favorite, even if it wasn t included in the list? Remember, the top five are based on your most popular nominations from the call for contenders thread from earlier in the week . Don t just complain about the top five, let us know what your preferred alternative is—and make your case for it—in the discussions below.


Five Big Online Dating Profile Mistakes Made by Women over 40 #free #singles #dating


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Five Big Online Dating Profile Mistakes Made by Women over 40

Is your profile withering away online? Is it attracting the interest of couch potatoes, the chronically ill or the guys just looking for a little action? If so, you are likely making at least one of the mistakes commonly made by women over 40 who are using online dating as their new discos. (Really where do you meet men these days?)

Unfortunately, all it takes is one major profile mistake to potentially sabotage any chance of finding love or even a few good dates. Because, let s face it, the odds are not in our favor, ladies. As we get older the man-to-woman ratio moves more and more lopsided. Some statistics show that for every man over 50, there are up to 5 women; over 60, ten women, and so on. Ugh! The days of sitting back and waiting for anything incoming are over. If you want to be noticed and rise to the top, it pays to create the best possible profile and keep it polished and shiny. Because if it doesn’t catch his interest right away, it only takes a single click for him to find one that does.

The good news is that unlike a lot of things in life, your profile is easy to change and update. And once you know how it is inadvertently turning off the men who are looking for a positive, fun connection, it s really not that difficult. Here are the top five profile mistakes common to women over 40, along with specific tips to make your profile more appealing and reflective of the best you.

1) It’s a shopping list. Your profile is your calling card, not a wish list. Once you’ve hit your 40s and beyond, you kind of know what works for you and what doesn t. Many women use their profile as a list of their likes and dislikes. That can be a turn-off. The purpose of your profile is to market you. If you do a good job describing yourself and painting a picture of what it feels like to be in a relationship with you, it will attract the right men and repel the wrong ones. So focus more on what you have to offer, and less on what they can do for you. I guarantee you ll see the immediate payoff in the quality of men you attract.

2) It’s too needy. Here are some statements I see every day in women s profiles: I’ve waited so long for the right relationship and I hope it’s finally my time. I’m ready to be his everything. I’m looking for a relationship where we are totally devoted to each other. While some of this may be true for you, it’s not something to put in a profile. The man reads this as you having incredibly high expectations and reliance on your relationship for your happiness. Remember, he doesn’t even know you. If you wouldn’t say it on your first date, don’t write it in your profile.

3) It’s not needy enough. Women in their 40s, 50s and beyond are particularly guilty of this. After all, you’ve probably accomplished a lot in your life without a man and are prepared to continue doing so. Be careful not to sound like there is no room in your life for a relationship. It often goes something like this: “I spend my days as a busy lawyer and my evenings teaching courses at the local college. Many weekends are spent training for my next marathon and singing in my church choir.” Whew! You can go on to say that you look forward to a relationship, but really where can a man possibly see time for himself in that picture? Also, avoid these statements: “I don’t need a man, but it would be nice to have one in my life.” Or, “I’ve been fine all these years without a man but I ll make room for the right one .” Men, just like women, don’t want to feel like an accessory in someone else’s life. They especially need to feel needed and like an important contributor to your life. If you make it sound like you can take it or leave it, they are likely to help you leave it.

4) It’s too boring. “I love spending time with my friends, volunteering and reading novels.” When a man reads this his eyes glaze over and he moves on to the next profile. It’s too generic, common and, frankly says nothing about you that s interesting. Instead, be more specific and paint a picture for him. Such as, “A great evening for me is trying out the newest ethnic food restaurant with a few good friends and disagreeing about the controversial exhibit at the art museum.” Or, “Sunday mornings you’ll find me at the SPCA walking dogs and then off to my favorite breakfast joint for their fresh brewed coffee and chile relleno. I like mine extra spicy. (Okay, doesn t hurt to flirt a little.)

5) You sound like a Debbie Downer. Does your profile sound like someone who likes to have a good time? Don’t be negative or too serious. “I’ve tried online dating before and it didn’t work, but I’m trying it again.” Or “I’ve had a lot of challenges and hardships over the last 20 years and now I’m ready for a change.” Or “I’ve devoted my life to my children and caring for my elderly parents now it s my turn.” Again, this all may be true, but it s important to let your prospective match know that spending time with you will be enjoyable otherwise why would they want to contact you? When was the last time you read a man s profile and thought Wow, he sounds like he really needs me to cheer him up I definitely want to meet him! Spend your initial time letting him know how you relax and enjoy yourself and how being with you will add positively to both of your lives. You can roll out the “heavy” information as you get to know each other.

As a Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40. I’ve seen (and done) it all when it comes to online dating. I’ve seen how rewriting a profile, making it more positive, more aspirational, and less demanding can help the right guys find their way to your inbox. I ve also seen how it creates love connections. My husband and I met and married when I was 47 and I m now spending the happiest years of my life. Let me know how it goes for you!

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Christian Dating Advice: Five Strategies for Christian Singles #sms #dating


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Christian Dating Advice: Five Strategies for Christian Singles

Jenna voiced a common concern among single Christians looking for a lifelong partner: “My spiritual beliefs and values often make dating a very risky pursuit. I’ve been set up with guys—even ones who know I’m a Christian—who expect me to go along with their lifestyle choices: sex, drugs, excessive drinking, and the rest. Other times, guys find out I’m a Christian and automatically assume I’m uptight and judgmental. The stereotypes get old.”

Of course, the problems don’t disappear when Christians choose to date only other Christians. As Brad said, “I’ve heard Christian dating advice that assumes all Christians are exactly the same. But it’s not as if every believer fits a certain profile. There’s a broad spectrum of what it means for people to call themselves a Christian—from very liberal to very conservative and everything in between. Just because a woman calls herself a Christian doesn’t mean her beliefs or lifestyle choices are the same as mine.”

Let’s be honest: Dating is complex and confusing for nearly everyone—often even more so for those who want to safeguard their spiritual beliefs and moral values in an anything-goes culture.

With this in mind, let us suggest five strategies for dating to help guide Christian singles men and women:

Keep your inner world clean and uncluttered. A key Christian principle says that what is in a person’s heart determines how that person acts—all the decisions he or she makes, for better or worse. Lots of Christian dating advice focuses on behavior—how far is too far physically, what people of faith should or shouldn’t do in a dating relationship, and so on. Some of that advice might be helpful, but most helpful is the recognition that conduct follows convictions and actions follow attitudes. In the book of Proverbs, Solomon wrote, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (4:23). Sound judgment in matters of love and romance springs from a heart rooted in and nurtured by your most deeply held spiritual beliefs.

Define your standards in advance. The time to think through any potentially perilous situation is before it happens. If you traveled to a large city, you would get clear directions to your exact destination so you don’t end up in an unsafe area. You would plan ahead to avoid danger. The same goes for dating. If holding to your values is important to you, take time to identify them before you start dating. Fortify them in advance with your firm intentions.

Don’t hesitate to state where you stand. Some Christian singles are reluctant to voice their convictions for fear of being labeled “old-fashioned” or “narrow-minded.” But it’s best to be up-front about what is and is not acceptable to you. Many awkward and compromising situations can be avoided by simply being honest with your date about your standards. If your dating partner resists your efforts to be true to your beliefs, then do yourself a favor—gracefully bow out.

Maintain a support system. When facing any challenge, it helps to know you are not alone. Enlist others who share your commitment to moral integrity. Ask them to watch your back, encourage you hold firm to your convictions, and keep you accountable. As the saying goes, there is strength in numbers. And strength is what Christian singles need when navigating the tumultuous waters of potential romance.

Seek dating advice from a mature Christian you respect. Chances are there is someone—a pastor, mentor, teacher—whose perspectives and opinions you hold in high regard. Spend time with this person and glean all the wisdom you can. Again, it was Solomon who said, “He who walks with the wise grows wise” (Proverbs 13:20). Good counsel is available to you if you’ll ask for it.

Spiritual beliefs are a large part of who you are and will play a vital role in any lasting relationship. Define them early—and defend them strongly.

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Online Dating Etiquette: Five Tips No One Will Tell You

Click here to watch the TEDTalk that inspired this post.

When I saw that Gary had called, I was thrilled. Since going on one Match.com date, I’d awaited his missives. Usually, these were sporadic and at odd hours. I should have stopped responding, but I was physically attracted to him⎯something that didn’t happen often. With heart palpitating, I played his voicemail message. It said: “Do you want to go to lunch and a movie tomorrow? My mother’s in town. She’ll pay.”

Watching Amy Webb’s TED talk (in which she details her online dating frustrations⎯until she got all her algorithms right), I was reminded of my own internet adventures before finally meeting my husband on Match in 2006. Prior to that, I spent five years having odd, incomprehensible, maddening, and deeply disheartening encounters like the one with Gary. I’d like to blame this on a bunch of assholes, but that’s not the case. Aside from Gary (including him?), I mostly met good guys who acted badly. Sometimes I’d get an email from someone who was exasperated by my own flaky behavior. Apparently, I was just as careless! With no agreed-upon etiquette, all of us did what we could get away with, or we emulated others. If my loved ones currently in the digital dating world are any measure, things have gotten no better since I took myself off these sites. To help my friends, and anyone else, I’ve come up with a handful of tips regarding web romance decorum. Is my advice subjective? Sure. But in doing research for a book on sex, I’ve also learned a lot about the mating habits of our species. Another inspiration for these recommendations is the way I was courted by my husband, which was exemplary. Then again, he teaches ethics.

1. Be Credit Card Sexy

I think we can agree that the person paying on a date should not be your mother. But if not her, who? Should it be one individual, or do you go Dutch? My opinion is this: If a same-sex couple is meeting for the first time, one of you should assume full financial responsibility. In similar hetero situations, the man should pay. “What?” say my female sisters. To them I reply, “If you’re offended by this old-fashioned custom, then don’t be shy about whipping out your wallet instead.” In truth, it doesn’t matter who forks over the cash as long as someone does it⎯fully. Tip and all. Taking someone out, being taken out. a rendezvous like this is sexy. Calculating debt based on who had caramel in their frappuccino is not. It’s a sex repellent. Mating is delicate business. There’s a reason horny manakin birds do a moon dance and hippos spray their lovers with wet feces. Rituals matter. Be happy you’re not one of those female mites who kills her mother and brother while breeding. You’ll need no such fortitude. Just an unexpired Visa.

Recently, a friend had a five-hour date with a woman he’d met on J-Date. They laughed and talked their heads off. Afterward, she wouldn’t return his calls. “What happened?” he asked me. Truthfully, I have no idea why this woman dumped my buddy. I’d venture to say⎯barring a nasty diagnosis or a death in her immediate family⎯she wasn’t attracted, even though she liked him. A lot. In other words, she was either avoiding an act of rejection, or she was using him for his brain. If you don’t want hot monkey love with a particular human, you need to communicate that. ASAP. I mean, now.

3. Get Your All Your Duck Fetishes in a Row

“I hurt myself last night, but I can’t say what I did,” confessed one potential paramour over Pad Thai. I was blindsided. We’d been hanging out for six weeks, and I thought there was potential. Now I was being tested on a subject I knew nothing about. I’m really vanilla (not into fetishes or scenes). If you don’t want someone like me, please let your freak flag fly right away. That way both of us can cut our losses and move on.

Lately a buddy told me that 70% of the men she meets online yap the entire time they’re together, never attaining even basic information about her. This habit, I imagine, is due to social anxiety, narcissism, or some combination. I throw no stones. If you think you might be a Chatty Cathy or Charlie, here’s a test: Do you love the interplay of bass and treble in your own voice? Does silence freak you out more than cancer? Did you raise your hand in third grade even before the teacher asked anything? If you answered yes to any of these, you might need a list of polite questions you can bring along on your dates. Then dare yourself to get though them all before coffee stains become visible in the cup.

5. Be Exactly Who You are, Though This Means You’ll Get Rejected

After a slew of emails, Chris and I agreed to meet in front of a museum. Approaching in the bright orange jacket I’d “borrowed” from a costume shop, I sported a hippy-fringe purse. But something was off. Chris felt it too, awkwardly standing there in his loafers, pressed slacks, and white oxford. At first I thought we both had on the wrong outfits. Then I realized we were the wrong person⎯for each other. We never saw each other again. This taught me that the more you express your true nature, the greater the risk someone will reject you. We all need to take that chance. If etiquette is a form of civility, the first one we should extend this to is ourselves. I tried to be myself on that first date with my husband, wearing my favorite summer outfit, cat-eye glasses and all. He was reading a French-African play⎯upside down (meant as an obscure joke). Throughout our relationship, I’ve learned a lot about setting boundaries and being more verbal when it comes to my needs. A main reason our marriage works is because we are so mindful when it comes to courtesy and respect. Though it’s not always easy.

I’m probably not the only person with tips about improved online dating behavior. We all have this knowledge when we remember that in the pursuit of love, caring should be part of the equation.