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5 Reasons Why Men Love Dating Women Over 50

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You think it’s easier or more fun to date younger women? Ken Solin, 69, an AARP dating expert whose columns also appear regularly in other Boomer-related sites and on Huffington Post, would disagree with you.

For 25 years, off and on, he lived in the “dating pool,” where he spent a lot of time typecasting his dates, some much younger than himself. “I hated it. We didn’t have the same frame of reference,” he says, revealing he’s now in a relationship with someone he calls his “best friend.”

Younger Women Are on a Different Page

Dan Collins, 51, a writer from Baltimore, MD, agrees. Younger women don’t get your jokes. They want to stay out all night. They don’t quite have the relationship skills necessary to sustain a meaningful relationship.

Solin says Boomer woman are stronger, have staying power, and his favorite line: “They don’t cut and run” at the first sign of trouble.

So how do Boomer women reach the “better pick” category of dating options? What makes them so great? From conversations with those who’ve been there and done that, there are at least five reasons

Reason #1: They know themselves

Collins, whose closest friends are Boomer women, says he finds them more centered than younger women. They’re not just looking for a man to fill a void.

“[Boomer women] have learned what they like and don’t like, so there’s not a lot of ‘guesswork’ with them,” he says. They are not trying to fill a laundry list of requirements, he adds, because, “As we age, if we aren’t completely stupid, we begin to realize who we really are and what we really need in our lives.”

Reason #2: They are confident

Beth Portolese, 56, a New Yorker who works in human resources and started a lifestyle website for women and men who are 50 and older—Fiftyisthenewfifty.com —says Boomer women have the confidence to forgive and understand, something that younger women often do not have.

For one thing, “Sex is less important,” she says. So if your man needs to take a pill for that, it’s not an issue with us; it’s reality. Likewise, she says, “If men have issues with their own sexuality, if they need medication to do the job, women get it.”

They don’t take things personally.

Reason #3: They relate to you

Women who are 50 years or more relate to similar things as you and have similar historical references, says Collins, such as “the world before the Internet, fax machines, and rewinding VHS tapes.”

Because of their shared experiences, Boomer women also have fewer expectations than younger women you may want to date. “We don’t necessarily want to get married,” says Portolese, “Like our male counterparts, we’ve been married before…We want companionship, instead.”

Reason #4: They appreciate your company

Collins, who admits he’s not the handsome rebel type, a type he says younger woman go for, likes it that women closer to his age are okay with that. They appreciate him for “the essence of the person inside…Are they caring, do they listen, are they accessible, kind, decent?”

It’s the older woman who appreciate the “Ward Cleavers like him,” he says, the guys who are dependable, good listeners and don’t go out drinking at all hours.

Reason #5: They employ wisdom

Women over 50 know “real relationships are difficult,” says Solin, and they will openly disagree with you, or vice versa, without running away. They know “real relationship skills take time to develop…and they are patient.” Interested in their own personal growth, they don’t feel the need to save or teach the men they date, he says, “They’ll wait to find the guy who has worked on himself.”

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    Fascinating article! As some of the replies below are showing, however, I think, it tends to over-generalize. But I think it hits a very good point – Age is “not just a number” for everybody when it comes to relationships.

    I found myself especially interested in #3. While I guess it’s always good for couples to have some experience in common, in a lot of ways, we Boomers truly came of age in a very different world than many young people, I believe. Not only is that due, in my opinion, to the extensive changes in technology, as the article suggests, but also to changes in society, as a whole (even though we helped to bring about many of those changes, ourselves).

    Meanwhile, I notice that some of you have your full name and/or email address in your username. For greater privacy, you may want to change that. If so, just click on your username (above, right) and change your username where shown. (You will have to log out and then log back in again for the change to take full effect.)

    rosered135 on 2014-03-29 05:02:21

    Unfortunately, reason #2 is one that Boomer men claim to want, but don’t in reality. They like the idea pc-ness of it, but aren’t comfortable with it over the long run.

    Hi, I am a 61 year young African American woman and what I notice most often about this site is that you very seldom have African American pictures or comments is there a reason for that?

    GrandmaNetta on 2014-03-27 15:34:52

    I just recently stepped away from a situation because it was clear that the man was so emotionally closed that the chances of an open and caring relationship happening were slim to none. Women still want to be courted and pursued, we want to feel valued and welcomed into a man’s life.

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  • 7 Reasons Not to Wait Too Long to Start Dating After Divorce #online #dating #personals


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    7 Reasons Not to Wait Too Long to Start Dating After Divorce

    I’ve been divorced for five years and I only recently started dating again. Now that I have, I’ve come to the realization that I waited too long.

    I think it’s important to take time to heal from divorce. People need time to adjust to the major changes that divorce brings: different living situations, moving, financial struggles, and having to share time with your kids. Divorce is a death of sorts. It’s the death of your hopes, dreams, and beliefs that you will spend the rest of your life with your spouse. It takes time to go through the grieving process. It’s wise to wait a year or so, so that you can evaluate your life, take inventory of who you are, change the things about you that you don’t like, and discover what exactly you’re looking for in a partner.

    However, if you wait too long, some things happen that make dating more difficult.

    1. You get comfortable being alone

    After some time, you start to enjoy the freedom that comes with being on your own. You never have to compromise on a restaurant. If you don’t feel like making your bed, there’s no one there to get mad at you for it. You can stay in your pajamas and watch chick flicks on Netflix, or you can get up early and run non-stop all day. The choice is up to you.

    2. You get cold feet

    The longer you wait, the more scared you are to enter the dating world, especially if you were married a long time and enjoyed the comfort and security of a loving relationship. The thought of fielding pick-up lines from guys at bars can make you hyperventilate. Going on a date and not knowing the rules because the last date you went on was 20 years ago, can be a really scary thing.

    3. You don t understand dating nowadays

    My last date before I got married was at a time when people didn’t have computers or smart phones. Do you understand me? Only doctors had mobile phones and they were as big as a shoe box! Now there’s online dating. Online dating scares the snot out of me. Weeding through hundreds of guys who probably want to make a suit of my skin, trying to find that one gem who not only is not a serial killer, but who also chews with his mouth closed can be daunting. And which of the trillions of online dating sites should you use? Heck, there’s an online site for farmers only! The first time I saw the commercial for that, I thought it was an SNL skit! Scary.

    4. You realize you don t need anyone

    When I first got divorced I felt like I couldn’t do anything. I didn’t know a thing about car maintenance. I didn’t know how to change my furnace filter, change the string on the weed whacker or fix my washing machine when it started leaking all over. Out of necessity, I learned how to do these things. I no longer felt like I needed a man in my life. Sure, it would be nice to have someone to do those things and to help out, but when it comes down to it, I am capable of taking care of everything on my own.

    5. You begin to think there s no room for anyone else in your life

    The thought of clearing out my closet to make room for another person’s clothes makes me feel resentful. I don’t want to give up any of my space. I’ve filled my days with my kids, my work, and my interests and I can’t imagine making room for someone else and their kids, work, and interests. I’m not saying I can’t or won’t; it’s just hard to imagine caring enough about someone to want to make room for them in my life.

    6. You decide you never want to share a bathroom again

    There are some advantages to being on your own – advantages like getting up to pee in the middle of the night and not falling in the toilet because no one has left the seat up. There’s something to be said for not having shaving gel and toothpaste globs stuck to your sink. Not having to pick up laundry from the floor brings me utter joy. Now that I’m divorced, I always get a good night’s sleep because no one wakes me with their snoring, no one steals the blanket, and no one puts their cold feet on me. Why would I want to go back to sharing a bathroom or bedroom with anyone?

    7. You get set in your ways

    You have a routine. You know what needs to be done and how and when it needs to be done. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have some help, but I know myself. I know that if someone didn’t separate the laundry, or if they loaded the dishwasher incorrectly, or if they didn’t clean the kitchen the same way I do, I’d get ticked off. Maybe I should be medicated. I don’t know. But I’ve gotten set in my ways and I don’t think I’d like someone coming in, changing things around, and not doing things the right way (i.e. my way.)

    I was talking to my hairdresser and comparing notes on bad dates. She and I both came to the same conclusion – because we waited too long, dating is harder and the thought of letting someone into our lives makes us a little twitchy. One writer and one hairdresser can’t be wrong. I’m telling you, don’t wait too long! Wait long enough to grieve and get your act together, then jump right in before you become a bitter old cat lady like me. (I don’t actually own a cat. I have a Guinea pig who eats nonstop though. I don’t dress him up in clothes or anything so there’s still hope for me.)

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    Dating Etiquette for Men – Reasons Why You Keep Screwing Up #e #dating


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    Tough Love Dating Advice – Reasons Why You Keep Screwing Up

    Dating etiquette for men can be a tricky topic. By trying to follow the right etiquette in hopes of coming across as a “gentleman” or “good guy”, guys can actually make the opposite impression. Instead of coming across sweet and chivalrous, guys instead come across as weak and needy. Here are some of the more common mistakes guys make when trying to follow the standard dating etiquette for men, and what you should do instead.

    Quit being such a nice guy

    In an attempt to show good dating etiquette men will go out of their way to be “nice”. They’ll avoid saying or doing anything the woman might disagree with. They’ll laugh too hard at jokes and comments that weren’t even funny. They’ll act super attentive and interested in the girl – not because they are genuinely curious about what she has to say – but because they want her to see how interested they are.

    If you find yourself being the “nice guy” – knock it off. No woman wants to date a lap dog who agrees with everything she says. Who she can walk all over and is just doing and saying whatever he thinks he needs to in order to be liked. Instead, don’t be afraid to own what you think/feel (you can always do this in a playful way). For example, instead of forcing yourself to laugh at an unfunny joke, playfully tease her about how lame it was (“What is this, open mic night?”). This is going to make the conversation more fun and real for both of you.

    Nice guys trying to follow proper dating etiquette will try and avoid “rocking the boat” or “saying the wrong thing” – and that can make for some pretty boring date conversation. After all, if you are more interested in projecting a certain image than you are in actually connecting with the girl, then the conversation is likely to stay superficial. No connection will be made and as a result that second date won’t happen.

    So don’t be afraid on your dates to have deeper, more authentic conversation. One of the easiest ways to do that is to simply bring up how you feel in the moment. If you feel nervous, state it. If there’s an awkward silence, call it out. Let her know what is going on with you and give her a chance to actually feel connected with you.

    Have FUN on your dates

    When men try and follow proper dating etiquette to a T they can wind up on some pretty uninspired dates. For example guys might take the girl out to “dinner and a movie” on a first date because, well, that’s just what dating is. Right?

    Wrong. If you want to make an impression on your date then don’t be like every other guy out there. Ditch the dinner and a movie and take her someplace fun. Be creative. Find something you enjoy doing or would want to try out and invite her along to join you. Take a painting class. Go wine tasting. Take her dancing. Do an activity that would provide a lot of fun on its own, and make it that much better by bringing her along.

    Stop trying to get her to like you

    Some men who follow date etiquette but rarely get a second date will complain about how women just want to date “rich, good-looking guys” and “jerks”. That usually means the man is following this dating etiquette not because it’s part of who he is – but because he hopes to get something from it. And it’s that intention – that desire to get something from the girl you are with, that is driving women away.

    Fixing this problem starts by fixing your mindset and how you view dates. Instead of having a goal of “getting the girl to like you” when you go out on a date, make your goal simply to enjoy yourself. You are not trying to win her over. You are simply enjoying your life and giving an opportunity to join you in something fun. If she’s likes the experience and wants to spend more time with you, that’s great. If not, that’s fine too. It means you won’t have to waste time with someone who ultimately isn t right for you.

    Make her earn your affection

    A major mistake guys make dating is they make things way too easy (and boring) for a woman. Even if it’s a first date a guy will go into it completely sold on the girl, and just hope that the girl likes him back. Merely having this attitude is going to seep out in a guy’s voice, body language, and vibe. And it is going to be a huge turn-off for women.

    So make your dates more fun, interesting, and exciting by making yourself more of a challenge for the woman. Don’t see it as your job to “win her over”. See it as her job to win you over. How can you do this? Get clear on the exact type of girl/relationship you are looking for, and then see if she fits the bill. If you are actively filtering the women you are dating – and not just trying to get any and every woman to like you – you are automatically going to come across as more attractive and desirable to the women you date.

    Men can take dating etiquette too far sometimes. In an attempt to treat the girl with “respect” they will bury any attraction and sexual interest they might have for her. They don’t want to come off as “weird” or “gross” or “creepy” so they hide their interest and desire – and then wonder why they wind up in the “friend-zone”.

    If you have desire to take things further with the woman you are dating, let her know it. Don’t sit back and wait for the “perfect moment”, or expect her to “make a move”. Man-up and do it yourself. Some ways to do this include: touching her more, leaning in for the kiss, or flat out stating how you are feeling and what you want to do next with her. Even if she doesn t feel the same way, she’ll at least respect you more for owning up to your intentions and desires instead of hiding them.

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    15 Reasons to Date a Single Mom #local #personals


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    15 Reasons to Date a Single Mom

    Don’t let her kids scare you off. That cute single mom might be the future Mrs. You.

    Here are 15 reasons to date a single mom.

    1. She’s no wimp. Single moms are tough and independent.

    2. She’s already a great mom. (And weren’t you looking for someone who would be a great mother? Look no further!)

    3. She’s incredibly patient, but doesn’t have a lot of tolerance for bad behavior. She’ll be good for you.

    4. She doesn’t play games. She doesn’t have time to just fool around. She takes her relationships seriously.

    5. She’ll only keep you around if the relationship is a good thing for both her and her kids. You won’t have to guess if she’s into you .

    6. Single moms are easy to pamper. (They don’t get breaks very often. Hint, hint.)

    7. She’s loyal — and is fiercely protective of her little brood.

    8. She can articulate what she wants and needs from a relationship.

    9. Single moms are both practical and fun. There’s no room for diva behavior.

    10. She’s no longer a party girl, but a fun night out is still very welcome.

    11. She’s selfless. Single moms put others’ needs before their own.

    12. Moms make the best lasagna and give the best back rubs.

    13. You’ll get to take part in adventures to amusement parks, the zoo and the park. Bonus: You’ll have an excuse to play with toys.

    14. She’s adaptable. She knows that life doesn’t always go as planned and has learned how to make the best of it.

    15. Single moms can do it all, but are super-appreciative of a helping hand. Woo her with kindness and acts of service.

    Why else should one date a single mom?

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    7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman #uk #dating #services


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    7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman

    Dating an older woman is quite the rage these days. As a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even than when I was that age. So if you’re only seeking women in the 21-29 age range, let me tell you, you’re missing out. Big time.

    Why are men so keen on dating more mature ladies? Pay no attention to the ol’ elbow-jabbing, wink-wink idea that cougars* are more likely to put out and pay for everything. Meh, that may be a reason a naïve man attempts to score with an older lady, but it s hardly the reason a smart man enters a relationship with one.

    WHY TO DATE AN OLDER WOMAN

    She’s got her own life. And by that I mean: her own career, her own friends, her own apartment, her own money. A 30-year-old man from Brooklyn told me these factors are what makes older women a turn on. “I find it comforting to know that her life goes on when I’m not around,” he said. (This is code for, I dread clingy girls who abandon their own ships the moment we have sex, and set up camp on my shore. ) Also, the fact that an older woman has her own money means she likely worked hard to get it. Should you automatically go dutch or expect her to pay? No. In fact, you want to impress someone, treat a lady with some bank to a nice meal, because she appreciates exactly how much it costs.

    She can hold her own . This ain’t her first rodeo. So when you take her out with your friends or coworkers, be it to a wedding or work event, you don’t have to worry she’ll perish without your constant attention. She’s been to enough of these things on her own to manage just fine while you’re talking to someone else. And, unlike the 23-year-old who gets tanked and throws shade at your ex, she’s got class. In fact, your ex will likely friend her on FB (like my old bf’s ex-wife did).

    She knows what she wants—and doesn’t want . And at this point, she’s not afraid to say it. In the bedroom? Go ahead and try to shock her. Bondage? Bisexual encounters? Threeways? Role play? If she hasn’t tried it herself, she’s likely considered it. Plus, I’m talking about outside of the bedroom as well. You may buy into the idea that all older women are “desperate. Granted, some are. (Some older men are too. And some younger women, And some etc. etc.) But many are not.** She’s choosier, and, unlike the 26-year-olds who think they’ll drop dead if they’re not engaged by 27, married at 28, and prego before 30, she’s looking at life a little differently now. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t want marriage/kids, because she might—but if so, she’ll be pretty clear about it up front. Since she’s got a little life on her (and maybe even a marriage in her past), she may not have the rigid checklist that a younger girl has. Most of the single women I know over 35 just want a good man, period.

    She doesn’t move in a herd. I once went out with a young man from Queens who only dated older women because younger ladies, he found, couldn’t do a thing without checking in with 15 of their friends. When you date a younger woman, he said, you also date all her friends, and it’s “a pain in the fucking ass.” You can’t just go out and do your own thing because she must receive approval from a larger governing body. A slightly more mature lady has friends—but she sure as shit doesn’t need their permission to live her life.

    She had sex before she had a FB profile. Hard as it may be to imagine a world before Facebook, the fact is, there was one—and I, along with many of my lady cohorts, lived in it. Given that we didn’t suckle at that digital teat so early on like Millennials, we’re not going to live and die by whether we change our relationship status. I even forget it’s there. Get this: I’m not even FB friends with the guy I’m currently seeing. I’ve found it refreshing. It retains a bit of mystery, and privacy, for now. I don’t need to be omnipresent, liking everything he says or does, and I don’t have to monitor what I say, worrying it’ll be taken a certain way. I did get a glimpse of his page when he left it open one day, and I did take a gander at his ex, but I found it so stressful that I closed out of it immediately. Try getting away with that with a 27-year-old.

    She doesn’t need you; she wants you. If she’s gotten this far on her own, regardless of whatever relationships are behind her, she’s been through enough ups and downs to know she can handle just about anything. And she knows she won’t fall into a million pieces if she doesn’t have a boyfriend. But she would love one, for sure. And whereas younger women are putting you through the paces to see if you can provide her with a life, an identity, and a future, an older woman already knows who she is and what she wants to do—she’d just love someone to share it with.

    She can make you a better man. A friend of mine dated a 40-year-old woman when he was 22 and new to New York. “She picked the restaurants, paid for things, took me places. She had access to a world I didn’t, and she had done all the things I hadn’t done yet,” he said. Now he’s in his mid 40s, and married with a kid, and remembers that relationship as critical to making him the man he is now. “As a dude, I’m told that I’m supposed to date girls my own age and take care of them, pay for dinner, and so on. But for that period of time, the roles were reversed. She had the power. And it felt great—who doesn’t want to be taken care of? That’s when I understood what it was to be in that role, to be someone’s bitch, essentially. And I could appreciate it when it was my turn to take care of someone else.”

    *A note on cougars . The general consensus on cougardom is not so much a specific age as it is who you date. So, if you’re 35 and dating a 37 year old, yeah, not a cougar. But if you’re 35 and dating a 22 year old, ok, you might qualify. As might someone who’s 55 and dating a 30 year old.

    **There is a caveat here: Older doesn’t always mean wiser. And someone who was impossibly needy at 25 may be even moreso at 35, especially if she hasn’t had the relationships she’s wanted. There is, however, some considerable perspective and confidence that comes with age, and the more evolved woman will exude it.


    10 Reasons Why Men Should Date Women In Their 50s #best #free #online #dating


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    10 Reasons Why Men Should Date Women In Their 50s

    1. She’s a woman, and she gets things done.

    Fellas, from the day we came out of the womb, we have been playing catchup when it comes to the wisdom and maturity of a woman. She was way ahead of us on the school playground when she gave us that first kiss and we didn’t know what the hell was happening, and she sure as hell is light-years ahead of us in her fifth decade. She gets things done, and you don’t have to worry about it. Why? Because she thought of it before you ever did.

    Sharon Stone. Kelly Preston. Kathy Ireland. Nigella Lawson. Elle MacPherson. Vanessa Williams. Michelle Pfeiffer. Yeah, exactly. And then there’s Elizabeth Hurley currently in the latest sexcapade series, “The Royals,” on E. Granted, Liz H doesn’t officially cross the 5-0 threshold ’til June 10th, but OH MY GOD! If there is any doubt that she is not the hottest woman on the planet right now, just check out the show and how she redefines royal hotness as Queen Helena in a fresh new set of insane lingerie every week. Click Liz. and try to keep your mouth closed when you do.

    3. She knows what she wants.

    When was the last time you ever heard a woman in her 50s say she didn’t know what she wanted? I would venture to say, uh, never (and if she doesn’t know, run). She will tell you, clearer than a mountain stream in Tibet, what she wants in life, how she is going to get it, where it’s going to come from, and why it’s so important. Here’s the best part: she doesn’t expect you to know what/how/why/where/who you want to be when you start dating her. But one thing is for certain – after a few weeks, months, a year or two tops, you better start figuring it out, because if you don’t, she’s gone. Poof. Bye-bye loser guy.

    4. She turns the bedroom into a sex adventure park.

    Gail Sheehy, in her book Sex and the Seasoned Woman wrote the following: “The middle years, between 50 and 65, constitute the apex of adult life. for women, the passage to be made is from pleasing to mastery.” The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior discovered that 71 percent of 50-somethings surveyed — more than any other age group — said their last sexual experience resulted in an orgasm.

    Buckle up guys if you wander into her sex adventure park, where you are going to find more experimentation, more toys, more of anything and everything when it comes to sensuality. She’s also much more likely to wear lingerie, which she probably wears daily, because she loves it. One woman recently told me that her lingerie “is the first thing next to my skin, and that lace or silk is going to project on to everything and everyone else around me.” Hello!

    Ali Cudby, a lingerie industry expert and CEO of Fab Foundations in Washington, D.C. who I interviewed for a Livinghealthy.com article about lingerie, said lingerie “is the superhero costume underneath her clothes. It makes her Wonder Woman. By wearing lingerie, it sends a message [to yourself] that you are awesome. So everything that you decide to do that day gets dipped into awesome sauce.”

    5. She is WAY over her ex, and doesn’t want to talk about him, at all (red alert: nor should you!)

    When a man goes on a date with a woman, the last thing he wants to hear about from her is her ex. A woman in her 50s SO gets that and that’s because she doesn’t want to talk about her ex — at all. One big reason why she doesn’t is that she doesn’t have to. Her children are usually grown (Reason #6) so she probably hasn’t spoken to him in weeks, months, hell maybe even years.

    The last thing she wants to hear, from you, is anything about your ex. She’s moved on and so should you. If you don’t, then she’s moving on, far far away from your sorry ass. So follow her lead and move onward and upward with her, out of the grip of the ex-Death Star of Divorce, for good. Everyone will be much happier if you do.

    6. She loves kids, has grown kids and definitely doesn’t want any more.

    More likely than not, her kids are out of the house or just about to leave. That means no early nights to get back for the babysitter or last minute cancellations because her kids are sick or just being brats. She can go out every night of the week. The super-crappy schedule of every other weekend and Wednesday night availability is gone.

    She still loves kids dearly and can love your kids just as much. But the best thing of all is that the last thing in the world she wants is more kids. It’s her time now and all she wants is to have fun. Maybe a lot of fun (reason #4).

    7. She wants to make you the center of attention.

    If she was married before, she learned an awful lot about men during her first marriage and even more if she’s had a second or third ex. She’s committed to correct the past mistakes, miseries and mishaps of her marriage (or marriages) and wants and needs a man that she can be a true partner with — one who she wants to take care of (if she doesn’t, run!). Her kids are grown (reason #6), so she doesn’t need to take care of anyone else but herself and hopefully you.

    She may want you, but she doesn’t need you. She is almost always independent and often extremely independent. She’s hopefully financially independent as well, who has a solid job and stands on solid terra firma when it comes to her emotional and financial stability. She’s looking for a partner but the last thing she wants or needs is another dependent.

    9. She is comfortable in her own skin, and doesn’t crawl under yours.

    She is more content with herself than her younger 20s, 30s and 40s sisters because, according to a Gallup survey. she’s just plain happier than they are. One reason might be she’s already gone through the tough inner work on herself to get to that magical place of inner peace and joy. Whatever the reason is, it’s great because happiness suppresses drama, and we all know high drama in a woman is the worst and completely sucks the air out of your happiness bubble. One guy I know, for example, is dating a younger woman who, when she’s not happy with herself or him, sits on the floor and pouts like a 5-year-old. As Sweet Brown famously says: “Ain’t nobody got time for that!”

    10. She can still sport a bikini, and look awesome in it.

    The visual evidence is splashed all across Facebook this month of hot women in their 50s, walking around in their tiny little bikinis as they scamper across the sands of Florida and Caribbean beaches. They are often standing next to their daughters, sporting wide Ray Bans and wider smiles, looking more like older sisters than moms. Then there is the added impact of Cindy Crawford (who, by the way, turns 50 next year) going public with a an un-retouched photo of her in lingerie, setting off a firestorm of women in their 50s proudly showcasing their fit, fantastic bodies in a phantasmagorical display of bikinis.

    God Bless American women in their 50s.

    Guys, pick up the phone now and ask her out before someone else beats you to it.


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    10 Reasons Why Women Should Date Men In Their 50s

    1. He’s mature.

    Men age like a fine wine. It takes awhile, a long while in fact, for a man to mature. When a woman finally meets a “real” man, she’s very very happy because she has waited so damn long for those sour boy grapes to mature into a luscious, velvety virile gentleman. The Nickelodeon Channel, UK (of course it had to be a children’s channel to conduct this research, right?) found that men don’t fully mature until they are 43-years-old, which turns out to be 11 years after women mature. So imagine how much more mature a man is, ladies, when he turns the big 5-0. He’s ripe for the picking.

    50 Shades of Gray has never been hotter, or sexier, than on a man’s head. Gray is all about being more distinguished, intelligent, dapper, and wiser (that’s because he is!) than our younger male brethren. If there is any doubt about gray’s hotness values, just take a quick glance at the current G Team: George Clooney, Jon Stewart, John Slattery, Anderson Cooper, Jeff Bridges, Barack Obama, to name just a few. Gray is the New Black.

    A man 50 years and older is not in a hurry. He wants to please you, and takes great pleasure in making sure that happens. He also knows there is a lot more to do in the bedroom than just regular intercourse. A survey conducted by BJU International, as reported in Science Daily. found that men in their 50s are more satisfied in their sex lives than men in their 30s and 40s. Asked to rate their sex satisfaction on a scale of 0-4, men in their 50s rated their sexual satisfaction at 2.77, versus fellas in their 30s at 2.55 and those in their forties at 2.72. Yes, Mick Jagger, we can get satisfaction, and that’s because, at the end of the night, we have satisfied partners to prove it.

    4. He loves kids, but doesn’t burden you with his own.

    Most men in their 50s (including myself) have older children who are either in high school, college, or out in the working world. Because our kids are older, then, we aren’t asking you to help us raise our kids. With that said, when it comes to kids, 50s Men understand, on a deep, fundamental level (if they are worth a damn, that is), that kids come before everything else in life, including ourselves. Most guys in their 50s, that I know, love kids. So, when you compare us to that Man/Boy in his 20s and 30s sporting a baseball hat and long shorts hanging ridiculously low off his body, who can barely wash his clothes, let alone change a diaper, is there really a choice on who you’d rather go out with? I didn’t think so.

    5. He makes date plans, and sticks to them.

    How many times have you waited by your smartphone to get a text on where, and when, you were going on a date with a guy? That almost never happens with a guy in his 50s (and if it does, run away!). His work schedule is usually full, so he doesn’t have time to constantly shift around the time and date of his dates. He wants something to look forward to, and when to look forward to it. He doesn’t play by the grass is always greener set of rules by floating three or more tentative dates to wait until the very last minute before deciding which is the best one to take. Do you know why? He’s got gray hair (see Reason #2 above).

    6. He’s physically fit.

    Sure our knees creak a little more, and are backs are a tad stiffer, but if we take care of ourselves, which many of us do, we can be in just as good a shape as our male underlings in their 30s and 40s. Are we going to beat them in a straight-up Spartan Race, Cross Fit competition, or marathon? Nah. But can we look as good as they do when we finish the competition? Hell to the yes. If you have any doubts, take a moment and check out the Facebook page “Fit Guys Over 50.” https://www.facebook.com/fitguysover50

    7. He’s financially stable.

    Guys in their 50s have been in the workforce now for over 30 years. To put it another way, that’s as long as a guy in his 30s has been alive. So, ladies, you don’t have to worry if he’s going to pick up the bill on the first date (see Reason #8 below), nor do you have to be concerned about his desire for you to be his next Sugar Momma. He has his own place to live, a car, credit cards, and a 401k plan. If he doesn’t, run.

    8. He knows he’s gonna pay on the first date.

    If a 50s Man asks you out on a date, he’s going to pay. It’s that simple. He asked you out. He pays. He knows that. How? When he was a boy, growing up in the 1960s, his parents taught him how to be a gentleman. In order to be a true gentleman, he learned to hold the door for a woman when she enters a restaurant, and when the bill comes, he grabs it, with relish. If there is a tug for the tab on the other side of the table, he pulls harder. She always lets go.

    9. He’s well traveled in the world.

    There is nothing worse for a well-educated, well-traveled woman than to have a date with a man who has never been outside the area where he lives, or for that matter, the United States. To be a worldly guy, you have to travel the world. By the time a guy hits his 50s, he should have traveled the world, a lot! I, for one, have been to every continent, except Antarctica. A 50s Man who has done a safari in Kenya, or scuba dived The Great Barrier Reef, or rode motorcycles in the Sahara Desert just has a whole helluva lot going on over a guy who talks incessantly about his brand new Ford 150 pickup truck, complains about how Alex Rodriguez is bad for the Yankees, or asks you to watch his kids so he can play golf with his buddies this weekend (see Reason #4).

    10. He doesn’t want you to mother him.

    A man in his 50s is not looking for a woman to mother him. We want to be with women who are our partners, not our parents. We want a woman who is independent, intelligent, fun, passionate, and compassionate. Yes, we love our moms — all good men do. We just don’t want you to be ours.

    In the end, we’re just looking for someone great to date, as are you, which you’ll get when you say yes to a date with a 50s Man.

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    10 Reasons To Date A Fat Girl

    You can probably think of at least ten reasons to date a fat girl, but let s get to the real reasons. Dating a fat girl can be the best way to meet the right person in your life. Reasons to date a fat girl are many, but we ll concentrate on the ones that will help you make the right decision.

    1. Fat girls arefun and easyto talk to. Fat girls are usually more concerned with their brains than their looks. This means you can never be bored around a fat girl. They always have interesting stories, and they wont care what they look like rolling down a hill, going on the ferris wheel, or posing for funny pictures with you. Fat girls have fun everywhere they go.
    2. Never Go Hungry. Do you really like Ethiopian food? If you do, you probably won t find a fat girl there. They may be up for trying the fare though since they are generally interested in trying any food once. Fat girls love it all! They ll try that Thai food restaurant you ve wanted to go to. Anything that tastes good is on their menu.
    3. Hug and Cuddle. No boney butts on fat girls! You get lots of soft skin to hug and cuddle. Fat girls love touch and definitely want your hands on them. Hug and cuddle your fat girl a lot and you will receive the affection you deserve.
    4. Lose Weight with Your Girl. Fat girls love to do things with other people. While a thin girl may keep up her appearance, she usually has a pretty set program for working out. A fat girl is up for anything as long as she can spend time with you. Fat girls will be more readily willing to go for a bike ride, skating, or working out at the gym.
    5. Enjoy Nature with Your Girl. Fat girls are more willing to be out in nature than skinny girls. Some skinny girls prefer to shop and are more involved with their outfit than paying attention to nature s beauty. Fat girls will be up for a hike any day of the week.
    6. No Jealousy. Many other guys may look at your fat girl, but not too many will hit on her. Thin girls get hit on all the time. You never have to worry about your fat girl getting picked up by another man.
    7. Gain Her Trust, Gain Her Love. Gaining a fat girl s trust is easy if you are a good man already. All you have to do is be yourself. That s all she expects. You don t have to put on any fronts or even pick her up with some corny pickup line. Fat girls will like you for you. All you have to do is be yourself and gain her trust.
    8. Take Her Anywhere. Fat girls are up for anything, remember? She will go anywhere you ask her. Take her on an exotic location and you will have nothing but fun. No complaints or long hours of her in the bathroom getting ready. A fat girl is excited to get to go to the beach or wherever you want to take her.
    9. NotWishy-Washy. If you need an opinion about something, ask a fat girl. Fat girls have dedicated their time to their minds, not their bodies. They know almost everything or will find out for you what you need to know. If you like talking and like being around opinionated people who see differing sides on things, date a fat girl.
    10. Laugh it Up. Fat girls love a laugh. If your past skinny girlfriends didn t get your humor, try a fat girl. They usually will find you funny and appreciate a laugh. Since they aren t concerned about themselves as much as skinny girls, they are more open to laughing with your jokes.

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    A fat girl isn t exactly what some men dream of dating. It may come off as cruel but ask any guy and they ll often tell you their idea of a dream date is someone who looks like their favorite model or celebrity. However, there are a number of reasons why dating a fat girl has its benefits. In fact, once you give it a shot, you may find going out with a fat lady a lot more enjoyable than hanging out with their skinny counterpart. For those wondering why you should date a fat girl, here are 10 reasons that would make you consider:

    Easy to talk to. One of the things that make a fat girl interesting to date is their ability to talk about anything. Since they ve made it a point to focus more on their brains and their personality instead of just their looks, they can engage you in a variety of topics that will keep you from being bored.

    Pleasing personality. Admit it, the pretty women you ve dated don t always have an endearing personality. Since they think the world of themselves, don t expect them to be all that nice towards you. That s something you won t have to deal with when dating a fat girl. Fat girls have a fun and bubbly personality and they don t feel that the world revolves around them, making it easier to deal and hang out with them.

    Willingness to try any type of food. Not all girls are open to trying out different type of delicacies. So if you happen to enjoy trying out new dishes, dating a fat girl is a must. Since they enjoy having a good meal, expect them to be more than willing to be adventurous in trying out different restaurants and cuisines with you.

    Affectionate. Fat girls love to hug and cuddle so if you re the type who enjoys getting some affection from a girl, you can t go wrong with dating a fat girl provided of course you give them the same amount of affection. Plus, they ve got softer skin compared to skinny girls which makes hugging and cuddling them all the more fun.

    Open to engage in any of your favorite pastime. Fat girls aren t shy of participating in your favorite pastime provided it won t require them to exert any effort. Whether it s watching your favorite TV show or playing your favorite video game, they ll be more open and willing to bond with you and learn more about your favorite activities.

    Not afraid to go outdoors. Girls who are skinny often worry about their image from their skin all the way to their fingernails, which make the chances of them going with you outdoors slim. Fat girls however, are more than willing to get dirty and go outdoors with you. It doesn t matter whether you want to go hiking or bike riding on a dirt trail, fat girls aren t too finicky about getting a nail or two broken just for you.

    You can take her anywhere. Fat girls aren t just willing to anything with you, they re also willing to go anywhere. They have no qualms about driving long hours just to go to the beach or to an exotic location. You won t have to deal with complaints that the place you re going to is too hot or out of the way.

    She won t be picked up by any guy. Guys who date slim women often have to fend off guys trying to steal them away. This is something you ll rarely experience when dating a fat girl since most guys prefer hitting on women who have a body that s similar to a figure usually reserved for models. As a result, you can go anywhere without fear of having your girl being stolen from you.

    Opinionated. If you enjoy having a good conversation, you won t get bored with dating a fat girl. Since most of them are very opinionated, they won t be shy about expressing their thoughts on a particular subject making your conversation exciting and unpredictable.

    Enjoys a good laugh. Fat girls are not shy or afraid to laugh. Since they re not overly concerned about their appearance, they re not worried about what they look like when they laugh out loud which makes them more fun to be around with. If you re the type who enjoys injecting humor in a relationship, you can t go wrong with telling a fat girl your list of jokes and silly quips.

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    If you regularly browse Thought Catalog, you may have read Emmi Jacqueline s post: 6 possible reasons you can t find a nice guy and you probably browsed the comment section to find, as usual, people on both sides of the fence wonder how accurate or judgmental the piece is.

    There are lots of complaints from women and it s understandable. The post was made to address what girls do wrong. When an article titled 6 asshole things that every guy does comes around, there will be lots of guys explaining how it doesn t apply to them.

    I sympathize a lot with Emmi s article, mostly because I ve suffered from or seen all of these in my close friends. But I don t want to just shift blame on the women I ve met and say that I m a victim. I don t believe that they are the only reason of my rather unsuccessful love life.

    So, here s my take on the reasons why people don t find nice dates.

    Before reading the following list, I implore you: if one (or all) of these points don t apply: good for you! Now please don t think of yourself as the sole representative of all women (or men). Just take a healthy step back and realize how something that you may be doing well may actually be something other girls are doing wrong. We re all struggling.

    1. Girls friend zone all the nice guys

    A lot of (nice) guys will tell you the same thing, this isn t new. However, it s important to say it again and again and again: there are lots of girls who take nice guys for granted. Not a singular friend, mind you, but the existence of nice guys out there.
    It s true, however, that it s not OK to start dating someone that you re not attracted to. If your best friend Johnny is a nice guy but you re not attracted to him, there s no good reason to date him, period. It s healthier to tell him that you re not interested in dating him.

    The real problem here is what commenter Guai Zi Zhao said: The crux of this discussion is that what woman find attractive isn t what they claim to be looking for

    What drives a lot of (nice) guys crazy is a girl who says she wants a nice guy but doesn t really look for it. For these girls, niceness is a platonic ideal but not a requisite for dating a guy. So, instead of saying girls friend zone nice guys, it s more accurate to say that some people (boys and girls alike) are not really coherent when it comes to picking a partner.

    Instead of telling girls to not friend zone nice guys, I d tell them to really think what they want in a relationship. If you want a nice guy, put it as a priority. If you don t mind, then go for whatever floats your boat, but please make up your mind about who you want. (Boys, the same applies to us. Don t just say that you want to date a nice girl. Look for her instead of hoping that one will fall from the sky)

    2. Unrealistic expectations

    It happens. Blame the media, society, your family, peer pressure or whatever. Everywhere you go you find unrealistic expectations of body, health and money presented as the normal thing . It s no wonder how many people have self-esteem issues that come from these expectations.

    The advice here is to learn to separate fact from fiction. What we see in TV, ads and movies is a constructed, artificial reality. tailored to be funny and attractive. Life is never that clear-cut. Life is imperfect and living beings are perfectly imperfect.

    Know yourself and love yourself. This is the most fundamental thing to do. Chances are, your body, your wallet and your skills are not equal to what you see out there. There are things you can change about yourself to become a better person, but even those have a limit. Know your limits and push them if doing so will make you a better person.

    Adjusting your own expectations will help miles in your expectations of others. You ll know how everyone has their imperfections here and there, and how they are a struggle to us all.

    This one is the same for boys and girls.

    3. You end up with a fixer upper

    This one ties in a lot with the previous point. People will never be perfect and expecting so will only lead to unnecessary disappointment. Even though Hollywood wants us to believe it, love is not magic. Loving someone will not automatically save or fix him or her. Love is not a magic pill that makes everything better.

    Love does mean caring for someone else as much as you care for yourself or even more. Love means wanting him or her to be a better person, but not a perfect one. Love is selfless. If you want him or her to fit your own standards, that s the polar opposite of love; it s being selfish, it s wanting others to conform to your norm.

    Love is accepting. Love means wanting the best for someone else and helping him or her go through the good times and the bad. (Wow, apparently this one applies to boys and girls as well. Who knew?)

    4. You equate asshole personalities with masculinity

    Remember that talk about expectations? Same problem. Lots of heroes in the media are assholes. Lots of asshole characteristics are praised. I wish I was making this up. Remember how love doesn t fix people? Many girls think that love will somehow erase the bad things about an asshole and leave only the good ones. Many girls see in a stereotypical macho man a guy who is secure about himself, willing to defend and protect his girl and someone who gets what he wants; but more often than not these are the result of insecurities about himself (see: unrealistic expectations)

    I m sure you ve heard of a girl who keeps coming back to her boyfriend even after she learned he cheated. The story of a single mom who was abandoned by her former boyfriend. The story of the guy who can t break up with her girlfriend even though she is a gold digger or a cheater. These and many others come from thinking certain attitudes are the sign of character .

    This one applies to the boys as well! Please girls, don t fall into that common and recent trap of thinking that being bitchy is good. Don t become a stereotypical asshole.

    5. You look in all the wrong places

    There really isn t much left to say about this one because it s easily actionable and down to earth. It s common sense, and as such, is rarely followed advice

    This goes a lot with what you want from a relationship (see number 1). If you want the kind of guy who is craving attention from everyone by being loud and having his shirt half unbuttoned, then go for him. If you want a guy that enjoys a quiet drink at a jazz bar, go to a jazz bar.

    It s true that you don t always get what you re looking for, but you can certainly improve your odds by being in the right place at the right time. I m sure that the girl who closes her eyes while listening to Beethoven is nicer than the one who downs shot after shot every Friday night. Wait, this one s for the boys too!

    6. It s you

    We ve come full circle. Once you know what you want and what is a priority for you in a relationship, you ll most likely get it.

    Of course, priorities are different for everyone and they all must be based in realistic expectations. This is why nobody will ever fit in your list of 43 characteristics of a perfect guy/girl .

    But once you have a rather firm grasp on yourself and what you want, it will be easier to get it. If you really don t want a cheating guy, dump him the minute you catch him cheating and don t look back. If one of your priorities is a girl who is economically independent, leave her if she gets dependent on you.

    If you want a nice date, make it a priority to yourself.

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